Before you talk about someone…

May 21, 2011

During the golden Abbasid period, one of the scholars in Baghdad, the capital of Muslim caliphate at that time, was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great scholar and said, “Do you know what I just heard about your friend?”

“Hold on a minute,” the scholar replied. “Before telling me anything I’d like you to pass a little test. It’s called the Triple Filter Test.”

“Triple filter?”

Filter your speech

“That’s right,” the scholar continued. “Before you talk to me about my friend it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you’re going to say. That’s why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?”

“No,” the man said, “actually I just heard about it and…”

“All right,” said the scholar. “So you don’t really know if it’s true or not. Now let’s try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?” “No, on the contrary……”

“So,” the scholar continued, “you want to tell me something bad about him, but you’re not certain it’s true. You may still pass the test though, because there’s one filter left: the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?”

“No, not really.”

“Well,” concluded the scholar, “if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?”

“O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the (latter are better than the (former): Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong.” [Surah al-Hujurat 49.012]

Extracted from the YoungMuslims.ca Newsletter.


CHOOSING ISLAM FOR MYSELF

May 20, 2011

Borrowed from HAPPY MUSLIM HUSBAND & WIFE

Story of Wanda and how she became a Muslim – very inspiring for all.

I was raised in a Christian environment, but from about the age of 7 or 8 I openly refused to accept the idea that God and Christ were one in the same–nor did I accept the trinity.

 woman making supplicatton

There were six children and my parents. No one else thought as I did, so you can imagine how very interesting “Bible Study” got at home. My mother was so shocked by my steadfastness, but nothing she said could change my mind. As shy as I was, I stood my ground and refused to accept my families’ beliefs. For whatever reason, I simply could not accept the Christian concepts to the point I got nothing out of the studies.

When I was fourteen, I decided I wanted to search for what I could not find in Christianity. I was literally starving spiritually for something I had no name for, but felt it existed somewhere.

I visited other religions–studied with some of them, but there was always that point where I was aware they were not for me. I just about visited every church/religion you could think of and they all fell short of the concept I had in my mind and heart for My true religion. The one religion I kept searching for was that which I could serve with all my heart and soul totally, fully, truly and uncondionally beyond a shadow of a doubt.

I was an oddball among my family and my peers. All during my childhood strange things happened to me that could not be explained by ordinary standards. I stood out like a sore thumb. I stopped going to church except for special family funcions and funerals. I prayed to God often, and tried to live my life each day to the best of my abilities with God’s guidance. I prayed to God to show me where I belonged. I asked Him where did I belong? I prayed for years and years, and would you believe I finally got my answer? Almost 4 years ago, I got an unsolicited letter out of the blue from a man who got my name from a penpal list sent to him by his sister-in-law.

I answered his first letter and from then on, it all was very interesting. I could read from the flavor of his letters that he was Muslim; he acknowledged this fact. I noticed his beliefs were a lot like my own and over time,he told me that without knowing it,I basically lived my life as a believer. We had so much in common when it came to serving God.

He sent me literature. The first piece of literature was so very beautiful, I could hardly stand the overwhelming emotion that came forth as I read it. It touched me to the point that I could not hold back my tears. I was so shaken by it; I have no words to explain what was in my heart at that time. I thorouhly studied all the literature sent thereafter, and it had the same emotional affect upon me. Read the rest of this entry »


How the Veil Protects Society from Sexual and Financial Exploitation

May 20, 2011
By Abu Muhammed | Saudi Life
Thursday, 19 May 2011 13:36

NICOLAS Sarkozy’s campaign to ban the Muslim face veil and other religious garments to feather the bed for his bid to be reelected to France’s highest political office has been deemed among high ranking members of the French political system as hypocritical to the country’s long held position of religious tolerance. He claimed that Muslim women who wear such garments are too ‘ostentatious’ and ‘provocative’ which he claims undermines French nationalism.

The transparency of Sarkozy’s rhetoric although seen as an obvious ploy among rival political factions to garnish support from the country’s growing anti-immigrant movement, his opponents were unsuccessful in mounting a defense against it. Though internationally condemned as racist (even Obama had to show a little grit and come out in principle against it), Sarkozy continues to defend his position by calling the veil blatant subjugation of women by Muslim men.

Well Sarkozy got his way – the veil, the niqab, was banned.

women wearing niqab, or face coverI followed this saga with interest. I was surprised that a country with 10 million Muslims managed to lay down for the old back door without too much fuss—particularly in France, the birthplace of democracy and where the term ‘feminist’ was coined. I suppose everybody’s got a plan.

Women in the West have only had rights for a 100 years thanks to the advocacy of feminism. Muslim women have been able to vote, own land and run their own businesses for about a little over 1400 years.

Before you can understand the full irony of the situation, I must explain how I came to know about Feminism. Let me start with a little tale called Becky’s Slap.

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Becky’s Slap

Being an adolescent in the 1960’s and 70’s was a pretty exciting experience in the United States. America was going through ideological growing pains: redefining and re-assessing its values in its social and political arenas. Everyone was talking about drugs, concerts and liberation.

I was about 15 amidst all of this when I met my first feminist—a perky white girl name Becky, a college student who volunteered to work in ghetto (today known as the ‘hood’). She had big blue eyes, long brown hair and wore ‘daisy dukes’. She smelled like honeysuckles. Being at the height of discovering what a man was, my raging hormones and me welcomed her unsolicited conversation with intense attention.

“Leroy,” she said, “do you know what sexism is?”

Not knowing what it meant, I was hopeful it was close to what I thought it was. Before I could share those thoughts, she continued.

“It is the exploitation of women by men,” Becky said as serious as her Minnie mouse like voice would allow. ‘Exploitation’ was also a new word to me and seemed reminiscent of ’expose,’ a word my little ghetto mind did recognize. She reached in her blue jean satchel and pulled out some fashion magazines. During those days, they were thick like dictionaries due to the ads.

“Look at this!” she commanded me, flipping the pages. She was starting to sound a little ticked off. “These women are being used and are brainwashing other women to believe in their own inferiority,” she declared. Read the rest of this entry »


Reading Surahtul Kahaf on Fridays

May 20, 2011

From Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri, who said: “Whoever reads Soorat al-Kahf on the night of Jumu’ah, will have a light that will stretch between him and the Ancient House (the Ka’bah).”
(Narrated by al-Daarimi, 3407. This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami, 6471)


Ten of the Best Manners

March 3, 2011

From Al-Harmaas ibn Habeeb, who narrarated from his father, who narrarated from his grandfather, that he heard ‘Aaishah (radhiyallahu ‘anhaa) saying:

“The best manners are ten:

 

  • Truthful speech
  • Sincerity and courage in obedience to Allah
  • Giving the one who asks
  • Recompensing the worker [employee]
  • Keeping the ties of kinship
  • Giving back [being trustworthy] with that which you are entrusted upon
  • Honesty and good treatment of the neighbor
  • Honesty and good treatment of the spouse
  • Honouring the guests

and the top of all, the [best manners] is

- hayaa [shyness & modesty].”

 

[Taken from The Excellence of Aaishah The Mother of The Believers pg 47. Reference in Arabic (Makaarim-al-Akhlaaq of Ibn Abee Dunya(35).]

 


KINDNESS TO PARENTS

February 12, 2011

by Musa Sadiqueuallah

 

holding a baby hand

 

Last week a terrible incident happened to one of my closest friend’s relative, a 91 years old father & mother, were thrown out from their own house, by their own two sons in Dhaka. The elderly couple had distributed all their several houses and properties to their sons & daughters. Do they really deserve this kind of treatment being parent ?

 

Now a days, I am not sure why people, keep their most beloved parents in “Old Homes”. Won’t they deserve a liitle love & affection from their flesh & blood!

 

The parents are entitled by right to kind and dutiful treatment from their children. Since this is an important duty that Allah emphasized so strongly, it is essential for every human being to know what constitutes kind treatment of parents. It is no exaggeration to say that for a believer, to be a dutiful son or daughter is to take the way that surely leads to heaven.

 

We note first that Islam uses the Arabic word birr in connection with children’s attitude towards their parents. The term connotes kindness, compassion, benevolence, and almost every aspect of good and generous treatment of others. One of Allah’s own attributes is derived from this root. Allah is the “Barr,” which means that His kindness, compassion, grace, and generosity never fail. Scholars say that this term includes everything that is good.

 

In Surah Luqman Aya : 14 “And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination.”

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MAKING THE MOST OF 25 MINUTES

January 31, 2011

Time:  where does it go???  In the past few years, time has become a rare commodity; it runs- sometimes flys- away and we are left running after it to catch as much of it as we can.  At the end of the day we ask ourselves, “what have I accomplished?!”  ”Have I done something new or learned something different from the day before?”  I once read in a book that we should not leave one day to be the same as the day before it.  We should always strive to improve ourselves; learn something new, take care of the poor, visit lonely friends or family, strengthen the bonds of relatives, spread some good news and refrain from spreading bad.

Some of us take classes to learn how to better manage the precious time that we have in order to increase our productivity or simply, our enjoyment of time– OF LIFE!  Therefore, when I came across this post I felt it’s too good to not share.  Also, as an ending note; I will never forget how Siraj Wahaj told us in a conference how he used to even read a small mus-haf during the one minute at traffic lights.. he has gone thru several of those small Quran mashallah… what a great example for us to follow.

Good Deed for the Day: Every minute counts – what can you do in 1 minute?

by Quran & Science on Monday, January 31, 2011 at 11:49pm

Life is short and it’s transitory. We to make the most of now – that is, make the mostevery minute possible. Hence, got a list of things that can be done in one minute, by the permission of ALLAH (SWT), and would like to share the same list with you – 25 things to do in 25 minutes everyday (and maybe more times in a day too!) and would love it if you could ADD TO THE LIST as well under comments:

 

time clock

1. In one minute you can recite Surah al-Faatihah 3 times, reciting rapidly (yet clearly) – silently or aloud. The hasanahs one can gain, not to mention, the right Guidance from ALLAH, are incomparable rewards to anything we can get from this material world.

 

2. In one minute you can recite Surah al-Ikhlas (Qul Huwa Allaahu Ahad) 20 times, reciting rapidly (yet clearly) – silently or aloud. Reciting it once is equivalent to one-third of The Qur’an. The rewards for this are well-known.

 

3. You can read one page of The Qur’an in one minute.

 

4. You can memorize a short Aayah from The Qur’an in one minute.

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Books by Umm Zakiyyah

January 31, 2011

There is an American sister who reverted to Islam many years ago and she shares her writing talent  with her growing number of fans.  Umm Zakiyyah is known for several great reads such as: “If I Should Speak”, “A Voice” and “Footsteps” just to mention a few.  Summaries for these can be read at: http://islamicidentity.blogspot.com/2009/02/book-to-read-by-umm-zakiyyah.html.

This sister has such a great ability to create story lines which put the reader inside the story, create a sense of intense emotion, and to make dawa through the novel format.  If you are up to a great read, check one of these out from your local library (if its not available– request it!!) or order from online book resources.

Recently, some of her shorter writings have been published in Sauidlife, which is where I took the following excerpt.  If you like this, please go to the home site of Saudilife for more wonderful posts….

 

 

 

TEARS nearly filled my eyes as I read the e-mail. The words reminded me of all the converts to Islam that I had spoken to, coached, and counseled over the years. Some still held on to their faith. Some had returned to Islam after having stopped practicing for some time. Others simply let go and weren’t looking back…

Solace…

Yes, that’s what they needed.

Peace of mind. And tranquility…serenity

An open door where others have closed. An open heart where others have hardened. An open mind where others had no capacity to understand.

And open ears where others offered neither time nor sympathy for the spiritual storms erupting in their hearts…

For they, these remarkable pioneers of Islam, had—after realizing its veracity, its undeniable truth, and its offer of internal peace—turned to Islam, turned to Allah…

And embraced His Religion…

Yet…

They were turned away and scorned by non-Muslim family and friends…

And by insensitive Muslims….

 

 


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