You were created with a purpose~~~

May 11, 2012

Never allow anyone to put you down and make you feel worthless. You were created by ALLAH with a purpose, to touch other peoples lives, and to leave a permanent mark in this world. As long as you seek ALLAH’s help and forgiveness, you are knocking to greatness. Believe in yourself. Believe in ALLAH and his plan, and never allow yourself to go astray. Remember, whoever goes to ALLAH walking, he comes to him running. Therefore, repent, live righteous, prostrate to your creator, and know that whoever seeks ALLAH, he seeks greatness………..

SM……..


DON’T HOPE,…DECIDE!

February 17, 2012

Here is another exceptional article which shows the importance of really paying attention and showing those around us that we love them. Life is short! Take time to smell the flowers, notice the sun rise, sun set, the needs of your next door neighbors, your relatives, that lonely clerk in the office who everyone ignores and the janitor whom no one can remember his name.  Although Islamicaly kissing one’s wife in public is not allowed, this article shows the beauty of really paying attention to our loved ones and making, and keeping eye contact, listening to what someone is saying.. learning that our computer program, project  or chore is not more important that a few minutes of undivided attention.  Minutes pass us by like water in a river,,, it will never come back again.  Do not live your life in such a way that when you are older you wish you had said, done, shown, expressed, played a board game, read a book together, taken that momentous decision that you are afraid of.. Life is risk and chances and Allah asks us to make all of our efforts a worship… Start all of our actions with Bismillah and smile at your brother,, lend that helping hand.. “Pay it Forward.”

Dont Hope– Decide!

Muslim Couple

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- By Michael D. Hargrove and Bottom Line Underwriters, Inc.

While waiting to pick up a friend at the airport in Portland, Oregon, I had one of those life-changing experiences that you hear other people talk about — the kind that sneaks up on you unexpectedly. This one occurred a mere two feet away from me.

Straining to locate my friend among the passengers deplaning through the jet way, I noticed a man coming toward me carrying two light bags. He stopped right next to me to greet his family.

First he motioned to his youngest son (maybe six years old) as he laid down his bags. They gave each other a long, loving hug. As they separated enough to look in each other’s face, I heard the father say, “It’s so good to see you, son. I missed you so much!” His son smiled somewhat shyly, averted his eyes and replied softly, “Me, too, Dad!”

Then the man stood up, gazed in the eyes of his oldest son (maybe nine or ten) and while cupping his son’s face in his hands said, “You’re already quite the young man. I love you very much, Zach!” They too hugged a most loving, tender hug.

 While this was happening, a baby girl (perhaps one or one-and-a-half) was squirming excitedly in her mother’s arms, never once taking her little eyes off the wonderful sight of her returning father. The man said, “Hi, baby girl!” as he gently took the child from her mother. He quickly kissed her face all over and then held her close to his chest while rocking her from side to side. The little girl instantly relaxed and simply laid her head on his shoulder, motionless in pure contentment.

After several moments, he handed his daughter to his oldest son and declared, “I’ve saved the best for last!” and proceeded to give his wife the longest, most passionate kiss I ever remember seeing. He gazed into her eyes for several seconds and then silently mouthed. “I love you so much!” They stared at each other’s eyes, beaming big smiles at one another, while holding both hands.

For an instant they reminded me of newlyweds, but I knew by the age of their kids that they couldn’t possibly be. I puzzled about it for a moment then realized how totally engrossed I was in the wonderful display of unconditional love not more than an arm’s length away from me. I suddenly felt uncomfortable, as if I was invading something sacred, but was amazed to hear my own voice nervously ask, “Wow! How long have you two been married?

 “Been together fourteen years total, married twelve of those.” he replied, without breaking his gaze from his lovely wife’s face. “Well then, how long have you been away?” I asked. The man finally turned and looked at me, still beaming his joyous smile. “Two whole days!”

 Two days? I was stunned. By the intensity of the greeting, I had assumed he’d been gone for at least several weeks – if not months. I know my expression betrayed me.

I said almost offhandedly, hoping to end my intrusion with some semblance of grace (and to get back to searching for my friend), “I hope my marriage is still that passionate after twelve years!”

 The man suddenly stopped smiling.

 He looked me straight in the eye, and with forcefulness that burned right into my soul, he told me something that left me a different person. He told me, “Don’t hope, friend… decide!” Then he flashed me his wonderful smile again, shook my hand and said, “God bless!”


Behavior Speaks Louder than Words!

December 27, 2011

Many times we go through our daily routines without much thought, even such acts as wudu and prayer.  Once someone passed on a quote, “keep smiling for you never know who may fall in love with it”.  It reminded me that all of our actions count, not just our smile.  Sometimes the smallest of our actions may leave a lasting print on someone we cross paths with.  I will never forget one of my staff: I was required to do a bi-yearly staff evaluation which consisted of sitting in on a few classes and writing up a form and submitting it.  This surely affected her chances of getting a merit raise or other benefits.  However, due to a heavy schedule I was not always able to sit in on the 11 classes with the frequency that I really should have. When it came time to write up the appraisal, I made a few strict comments about her always keeping to herself and not interacting with her peers and a few other classroom management issues.  When she was requested to sign it she turned the form in with stiff replies to all points and the basis was- how could I effectively evaluate her when I had not attended her class more than twice.

In all fairness, she was right.  I had not spent enough time to be able to give her a full evaluation.  Maybe other supervisors would have been upset or felt threatened by such a response from an employee.  However I knew that she was right and was only asking for fair treatment.  In the subsequent portion of the school year, I gained a new respect for the teacher as she put more effort into rectifying her shortfalls.  At the same time, I made more of an effort to appreciate her work and to notice it.  Because of her courage to stand up for what was right, I learned a valuable lesson in dealing with colleagues.  I started to increase my attention of the teachers’ best efforts, and tried to give them support to overcome weak areas.

A few years later I decided to stop working and focus on my family. During that time, this particular teacher sent me a message out of the blue telling me how much she had appreciated working with me and she listed a few things that I had done that had really had a positive affect upon her as a person.  One of them was noticing people and recognizing their value as an individual.  I never thought about that.  It just seemed a normal thing that we should do for each other, yet she was not the only one to mention this point.  Time and again it was said how much I had influenced a person, changed how they looked at things, encouraged them to go past what they thought was their limit, and how I was able to see the lion hiding within the kitten.

I often think back to that message.  It touched me so deeply and made me realize that often its the little things which we do that have an impact on people, hopefully in a positive way.  We may never know or hear of how we touched someone’s life.  Our behavior or actions may be planted as seeds and take a long time to grow, but we know that the seeds are there.  For this reason we should always think how we represent ourselves, as human beings and as Muslims.  Does our behavior coincide with Islamic teachings? Does our hijab or dress present the real teachings or are we tied up in trying to be modern? Are we shy to convey to others what we believe in?

The following video is short but the point is so clear!  What we do– or DON’T do– may have strong effects upon those who come in contact with us.  Let us be aware and try to improve ourselves so that we  can always promote the best knowledge, behaviors and attitudes.


Etiquette of Da’wa: Our Speech Should Not Offend Others

December 27, 2011
Gentleness

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I was attending the Friday prayer at a certain mosque once. In the back corner, I noticed two teenage girls sitting side by side, whispering and giggling throughout most of the khutbah (sermon). It was slightly distracting, but nobody made a fuss about it—except one older woman who was eyeing them with anger the entire time. As soon as the prayer ended, she marched toward them and towered over their small bodies. “YOU CAN’T TALK DURING THE KHUTBAH!!” she yelled at the top of her lungs. You could see the utter humiliation on these girls’ faces, as they lowered their heads and peered at all the spectators observing this embarrassing scene. After that woman’s verbal beating, I knew that immediate damage control was in order if these girls were to ever step foot in the mosque again.

It pains me to see how much aggressive behavior is unleashed on fellow sisters and brothers, all in the name of correcting wrongs, or enjoining good and forbidding evil. Islam is not a religion with a strict code of rules that needs to be imposed upon people. We forget that we are dealing with dignified human beings, who have delicate souls, hearts, emotions, and feelings. They are not inanimate objects on a factory belt, where they can be thrown around, cleansed and polished so the perfect ‘halal’ (appropriate) end product pops out. Each person has a unique life story, and every story has its struggles and difficulties; some people might be converts, or are just starting to learn about their religion. Others might not have had parents who taught them Islam, or parents who imposed religious practices upon them until they felt suffocated and constricted. There are also people who feel lost and are searching for guidance, and there are those who committed major sins and want to repent.

All these people have one thing in common: they want to feel love and acceptance. They don’t want to be humiliated or looked down upon. They want to be dealt with patiently, and they want a secure, nourishing environment to grow in. They want to see warm, inviting smiles that draw them closer to God and to the Muslim community. They want kind words of encouragement and support that inspire them to follow the Prophetic way in their worships, speech and character.  The Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him) never sugar-coated the truth or stopped calling to the way of Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala(exalted is He). Yet, it was his soft, gentle approach that made his message so palatable and soul-satisfying. The Qur’an testifies: “So, by the mercy of Allah [O Muhammad], you were gentle with them—and had you been harsh or hard-hearted, they would have dispersed from around you. So, pardon them, and ask forgiveness for them and consult them about matters…” (Qur’an, 3:159). Look at the beautiful advice of the Prophet ﷺ: “Make matters easy, and do not make them difficult; and give glad tidings and do not turn people away,” [Bukhari]. He ﷺ also made gentleness a beautifying component of everything: “Gentleness is not in something except that it adorns it, and it is not stripped from something except that it ruins it,” [Muslim]. Read the rest of this entry »


Prepare for the Hearafter Before Tomorrow Never Comes

September 24, 2011

Subhanallah what an amazing video and a great reminder of our final home!  We are living in this life, running after worldly goods, worried about things and problems that really do not deserve our worry and attention .  Let us focus on the hear-after where only our deeds will follow us.  May Allah forgive our sins, strengthen us, guide us to do good and to repent to him before its too late.  Its a reminder that non of us knows when we will die and we go through life thinking that tomorrow will come while we have not prepared ourselves to meet our creator.  Tomorrow might come today.


Some Points about Night Prayers

July 15, 2011

 

قيام الليل ::وقته من بعد العشاء حتى اذان الفجر…والافضل الثلث الاخير من الليل

 

Salatul layl -Night Prayer

TIME (WAQT) The time for praying Salatul-Layl is after Isha prayers but it is better to pray during the last part of the night near to the time of Fajr prayers

 

جدد نيتك …وكبر تكبيرة الاحرام

Make Niyyah and say Takbiratul Ihram.

 

صلاة قيام الليل…تكون حتى 11 ركعة

Salatul-Layl is made “up of eleven Rak’ats.”

 

تستطيع ان تقرأ اى سورة

You may recite any SURAH

 

تستطيع ان تدعو باى دعاء فى الركوع والسجود

ALSO You may recite any Dua in Ruq’u and sojood

 

I am a Muslim !

 

 


Common Mistakes Made During Prayer

July 13, 2011
Faithful praying towards Makkah; Umayyad Mosqu...

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Many of us learned how to pray on our own through books, others by practicing knowledgeable Muslims, and others from believers who themselves know or understand little about Islam.  In all cases, learning new points, or refreshing our information only serves to increase our deen and our iman.  Please watch this short video to gain more knowledge of how prayer can be complete and satisfying not only to Allah but also for ourselves.

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WHY DO WOMEN CRY?

June 30, 2011

A little boy asked his mother, “Why are you crying?”

 

“Because I need to” she said.

 

“I don’t understand,” he said.

 

His mother just hugged him and said, “And you never will.”

 

Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?”

 

“All women cry for no reason,” his dad answered carelessly.

 

The little boy, still wondering why women cry, finally asked the old wise shaikh (scholar). “He surely knows the answer”, he thought.

 

“Ya Shaikh! Why do women cry so easily?”

 

The Shaikh answered:

 

“When Allah made the woman she had to be special. He made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort.

 

He gave an inner strength to endure both childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.

 

He gave her a toughness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.

 

He gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child hurts her badly.

 

He gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. He gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

 

And lastly, He gave her a tear. This is hers and only hers exclusively to use whenever she needs it. She needs no reason, no explanation, it’s hers.

 

You see my son, the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the beauty of her face, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart – the place where love resides.”

 

Originally published at fathimaonline.wordpress.com


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