The Art of Letting Go and Moving On!

September 24, 2010

I like the concept of letting go. But although it’s one of the issues that I really love to discuss with friends and colleagues, it’s still a touchy one. People are not so open to the idea of letting go. They cling on some past events in life or on a present situation that needs to be put in the past and left there.letting go of things

Letting go seems painful, but really it’s not. It’s utterly liberating even. It’s so much easier than chasing—chasing something that doesn’t want to be captured or something that you can never reach. Rather than chasing happiness, why don’t you just let go of the things that makes you unhappy? The very notion of chasing something has a sense of urgency about it, doesn’t it? And, of course, with urgency comes anxiety. And with anxiety comes illness. And with illness comes unhappiness. When you become unhappy in your life or in your business, you will become less effective in dealing with the pressing needs of your life. You begin to not notice the changes that you need to adhere to. The people you work with become distant and they lose trust in your judgment.

I think it’s time to pick up the slack and decide to just let go of the things that aren’t making you the person that you should become. It’s time to let go of the need to seek the acceptance, approval and even permission of others. If you want their approval, let go of the things that you’re doing wrong. Of course, it’s also not healthy to do something just to impress others. Make that need for approval a motivating factor to better yourself, but please go beyond that stimulus. You can’t go on living your life under the watchful eyes of other people. Live your life and grow.

Just simple open your hands and let go. If you see yourself becoming miserable, let go. Let go of the emotional attachments you’re giving on a certain person or a certain failure that you had in the past. Know this: your past does not define your future. You can learn from your past, but you can always change the future based on what you do today.

Let go of the anger. Let go of the negativity. Let go of the things that pull you down. Well, if you can honestly tell me that you’re actually succeeding in your life and achieving your goals with these baggage in your system, then maybe I will think twice. But let’s face it, there’s no going anywhere when you have this negativity. For a time, you may feel you’re going somewhere, but after a while, you’ll notice that you’re actually going somewhere: down.

Let go of good things. And you come back to me and say, “ You just asked me to let go of the bad stuff, and now you’re asking me to let go of the good stuff as well? What’s left?” More room. What’s left is more room to receive more good things and even better ones or even the best things in life. Don’t you dare stop growing. This is tricky because when you’re at the top you feel like there’s nothing more to ask for. And of course by now you know that this is so not true. There’s no limit to growth! When you’re down, let go and grow. When you’re up there, let go and grow even more.

Move on. Let go.

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Focus: How to Keep it in Achieving Goals

September 24, 2010
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One of the key things that stop people from actualizing their goals is that they are easily distracted from them. Life is one huge distraction. It’s either problems that a person faces or a new gadget or toy that has just come out; whatever the distraction, it stops a person being focused on his ultimate goals.

Here are a few ways to keep yourself focused:

1. Make sure your goals are defined well

Ensure that you are clear about what you want from what you are doing. If your goals are not clear in your own mind, everything else will be fuzzy too. When you have to make decisions, you won’t be clear about what to do. Put dates to your goals. Goals without dates are like non-goals. You have to be clear about what you want to achieve and by when.

2. Keep your goals realistic and bite-sized

This is also very important. There’s no point saying to your self that you will become a billionaire in three months; it’s simply very unrealistic (for most people). Try to define your goals in accordance with what you think you really can achieve. Be realistic; it’s vital.

Also keep your goals bite-sized. Try to break down your larger goals into smaller ones. If your main goal is to get six-figure salary within a year, break that down: What sub-goals do you need to achieve before you can achieve the big one? What type of job do you want? Do you have to do certain things before being able to get that job? Courses? Write a blog? And so on. There is an overlap between larger goals and the things you have to do to achieve those goals. Often, the things you have to do to get to your larger goals are in themselves smaller goals. List them too.

3. Don’t overplan

Planning is good. It does help you keep focused. However, don’t overplan. The longer you spend planning, the more time you are away from actually doing the things that will help you get to your goals. Remember that plans are just glorified guesses. So have a basic plan. The future changes. There’s no point spending lots of time planning. Have a general idea and then just get on with it.

4. Keep your goals in sight

This is especially important when you are frustrated with the current task at hand. Try to go back to the goal and think about how you will feel when you achieve it. This really does help keep one focused and can be the difference between success and failure. No pain no gain. Keep in mind that in order to achieve any goal you have to go through times of pain: laborious tasks, things you don’t enjoy, semi-failures. It is almost inevitable. But if these short term frustrations keep you away from having the goal in mind, it can really be an impediment to actualizing your goal.

5. Look back to how much you have achieved

Look at what you have already accomplished and this will help you to stay on track. You will realize that you have already achieved so much and have come a little closer to your goal. Be positive! It really does help.

6. Be prepared to change

Sometimes, after trying something out while remaining focused on your goal, it just seems that the goal is simply not achievable. Maybe you know something now that you didn’t back then. Perhaps you were unrealistic. Whatever the cause, there are times when you just have to give up. However, before giving up, try modifying your goal a little. Try to tweak it to face up to the new realizations or new scenarios. It may be that you have to change the goal a little to make it work. Always try to find a way before deciding to actually quit.

So these are some ways of remaining focused on your goals. Any thoughts? Anything that has helped you to keep focused?

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