THE BEAUTIFUL GIRL

May 13, 2012

ImageA boy saw a BEAUTIFUL girl that captured his heart. He went to his dad as he wanted to marry her.

His dad responded, “No you don’t deserve her. I will take her for myself!”

They had a disagreement, so they went to the city’s judge to solve the problem. He told them “neither you or him will marry her, I’m the one who deserves her!”

They all began to quarrel and went to the governor of the city! Of course we all know what happened! he also wanted her for himself. They all wanted her for themselves.

Finally the girl said, “We will make a race in the Forest and you will all chase me and whoever catches me is the winner!”

They ran and ran and ran and finally not realizing an abyss the four men fall in a deep abyss! they all settled in the deep hole staring at the girl who looked down at them and said, “I’m the Dunya! no matter how you chase me you will end up in this hole!” 

Oh ALLAH. Keep us aware of our PURPOSE OF LIFE. Oh ALLAH enable us to fulfill our purpose. Oh ALLAH help us fulfill this purpose. Aameen


Behavior Speaks Louder than Words!

December 27, 2011

Many times we go through our daily routines without much thought, even such acts as wudu and prayer.  Once someone passed on a quote, “keep smiling for you never know who may fall in love with it”.  It reminded me that all of our actions count, not just our smile.  Sometimes the smallest of our actions may leave a lasting print on someone we cross paths with.  I will never forget one of my staff: I was required to do a bi-yearly staff evaluation which consisted of sitting in on a few classes and writing up a form and submitting it.  This surely affected her chances of getting a merit raise or other benefits.  However, due to a heavy schedule I was not always able to sit in on the 11 classes with the frequency that I really should have. When it came time to write up the appraisal, I made a few strict comments about her always keeping to herself and not interacting with her peers and a few other classroom management issues.  When she was requested to sign it she turned the form in with stiff replies to all points and the basis was- how could I effectively evaluate her when I had not attended her class more than twice.

In all fairness, she was right.  I had not spent enough time to be able to give her a full evaluation.  Maybe other supervisors would have been upset or felt threatened by such a response from an employee.  However I knew that she was right and was only asking for fair treatment.  In the subsequent portion of the school year, I gained a new respect for the teacher as she put more effort into rectifying her shortfalls.  At the same time, I made more of an effort to appreciate her work and to notice it.  Because of her courage to stand up for what was right, I learned a valuable lesson in dealing with colleagues.  I started to increase my attention of the teachers’ best efforts, and tried to give them support to overcome weak areas.

A few years later I decided to stop working and focus on my family. During that time, this particular teacher sent me a message out of the blue telling me how much she had appreciated working with me and she listed a few things that I had done that had really had a positive affect upon her as a person.  One of them was noticing people and recognizing their value as an individual.  I never thought about that.  It just seemed a normal thing that we should do for each other, yet she was not the only one to mention this point.  Time and again it was said how much I had influenced a person, changed how they looked at things, encouraged them to go past what they thought was their limit, and how I was able to see the lion hiding within the kitten.

I often think back to that message.  It touched me so deeply and made me realize that often its the little things which we do that have an impact on people, hopefully in a positive way.  We may never know or hear of how we touched someone’s life.  Our behavior or actions may be planted as seeds and take a long time to grow, but we know that the seeds are there.  For this reason we should always think how we represent ourselves, as human beings and as Muslims.  Does our behavior coincide with Islamic teachings? Does our hijab or dress present the real teachings or are we tied up in trying to be modern? Are we shy to convey to others what we believe in?

The following video is short but the point is so clear!  What we do– or DON’T do– may have strong effects upon those who come in contact with us.  Let us be aware and try to improve ourselves so that we  can always promote the best knowledge, behaviors and attitudes.


How to Deal With Sadness and Loss of Loved Ones

December 9, 2011
Allah Ar-Rahman

By Abida Aura Mustafa

Whether through death, loss, or disagreement, when we lose someone or something dear to us, we become overwhelmed by the pangs of grief; the pain of loss feels overbearing as though it would never end. Having to face the consequences of detachment can be a traumatic experience. All we can think of is the pain enshrouding our hearts and consuming our minds. With tears streaming down our faces, our faces contorted with emotion and our hearts too feeling as though a heavy burden has landed—the misery takes a hold of us and, blinded by our tears, we fail to see the light.

But there is a light; a light to behold even in the darkest corner of the earth, even in the murkiest depths of the ocean. We don’t have to drown in the quicksand of trauma. Nothing and nobody by Allah’s Will subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) has the ability to overpower the underlying depth of:

Inna lilLahi wa inna ilayhi raji`oon.

Verily, unto God do we belong and, verily, unto Him we shall return.

When we actually give some time and thought to reflect upon the words which constitute this statement, we come to realise that there is an extremely powerful and truthful message behind it—an answer to all our questions, grief and emotions.

This profound phrase captures the essence of our entire existence; it encapsulates where we came from and also where we are headed:

Allah

Understanding the statement has the ability to eradicate regrets and past events. It holds the key to finding contentment during those times when we think, ‘Why did that have to happen?’ We can become immersed in questioning, and drown in the misery of relentless searching for the answer…Or we can discover patience by asserting that regardless of whatever has occurred, we will indeed return to Allah (swt).

When we truly understand the meaning of inna lilLahi wa inna ilayhi raji`oon, we find that no sadness will last forever, and that we shouldn’t destroy ourselves by holding even the slightest bitterness or anger within us. By understanding that Allah (swt) is the One, the only One to Whom we belong, we should be able to move on from painful moments in our life (which we should assert as not being able to occur except that Allah (swt) Willed for it to be) and strive for our goal of meeting Him.

There should be no space for bitterness or anger when one truly comprehends the deep truthfulness of this phrase, and we should be able to forgive those who have intentionally or unintentionally wronged us because we know that Allah (swt) alone holds all sovereignty and that even our emotions belong to Him. By forgiving ourselves and others, by showing sabr(patience) in the face of death or loss, and by aspiring for Allah’s Mercy and Judgement, we open ourselves to a whole new level of understanding ourselves in the context of space and time. We can understand by His Will that Allah (swt) is all that matters, and everything else in this dunya (current life, world) is a means for us to reach Him because we want to be able to See Him at the end, for without a doubt we will have to return to Him.

‘Inna’ meaning ‘verily’ tells us that with certainty we belong to Allah (swt), that is, He Created us and bestowed on us our beginning without a doubt. ‘Inna’ occurs twice in this phrase, providing an emphasis on the certainty of Allah’s Ever-Lasting existence, emphasising the certainty of our beginning AND our end. So Allah (swt) is Al-Awwal (the Beginning, the First) and Al-Akhir (the End, the Last). Al-Awwal ul Akhir (The Ever-Lasting) is the source of light in every single moment of despair, hardship, and difficulty where our tears and grief blind us. Instead of allowing or hearts and souls to become blinded by the darkness of sadness, we can train ourselves in times of positive feelings and negative feelings to find contentment in Allah’s Decree, for nothing happens without His Decreeing it.

Allah (swt) tells us in Surah Baqarah, verses 155-156:

 And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirun (the patient). Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: “Verily! To Allah we belong and verily, to Him we shall return.” (Qur’an 2:155-156)

This is our Lord, the One Who Created us when we were nothing, telling us in His Divine Book—tanzil (sent down) to humans and jinn as a dhikr (reminder)—that He will definitely test us with trials, but that He has Promised reward for those who are patient.

And how do we be ‘patient’ in the face of turmoil?

Just as Allah (swt) has created tests involving struggle, risk and loss, Allah (swt) has also told us how to approach these tests; He has revealed to us that the patient are those who, when afflicted with calamity, say, “Inna lilLahi wa inna ilayhi raji`oon.” In His infinite Mercy, Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala has allowed for relief to accompany difficulty. This also shows us that the losses and difficulties won’t last forever, and that everything which we regard as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ in the dunya is of temporal nature.

No pain or grief or disagreement can last forever, but with certainty, Allah (swt) lasts forever and from Him we came to be and it is to Him we will with certainty return.

This means that the events which take place in this dunya are mere moments. We become so consumed by our grief that we fail to see that al-Qahhar (the Conqueror, the Ever-Dominating) has provided us with light and that even in the most difficult times, Allah (swt) provides ease with hardship. Read the rest of this entry »


Ten Minutes and Thirty Nine Seconds to Change Your Life

September 24, 2011

As-salaamalikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakato,

Subhanallah I just got an email with this link at this time of the morning and the 10 min and 39 secs had a profound impact on me. We should keep this video and review it every so often (perhaps even weekly or monthly) to remind us what and where our ultimate destination will be. It is a good video for us ladies as we do not visit the graves!

I have been so busy purchasing household items at the moment and trying to make my villa “cozy”. We have been living in an empty shell for two and half years with bear minimum: enough to keep us going, not enough to have that cozy feeling though. I am nesting, but my main intention is to ensure that when my family visit (when the baby arrives insha’allah) they are comfortable in my home and will leave with a feeling of not wishing to.

I (cannot speak for you all) do forget in the normal hum drum of life the things I should be really preparing for. My ultimate permanent abode: I lack in this in so many ways. This video has come on a day when I had to witness so much fitnah on national day riding through Riyadh tonight (may Allah guide all the people I saw today). The music and dancing etc was just so alien to me now that I have moved away from the UK, but I really found the whole scene intrusive and got a little angry that my children had to witness it! May Allah protect us and our children.

This video will definitively move you.

I pray that you all use your time and energies to accumulate the good deeds, may Allah accept your deeds, may you do them for His sake only, may you reap the rewards, may He expand your graves until you all rise to meet your Creator. May we help each other as sisters in Islam to remind each other, help each other, guide each other to our Creator and insha’Allah Jannah Firdaws. Ameen

 

Pass this link on to those you know…….it is a great reminder.

 

Love you all

 

Fei Amaan Allah (always and forever)

 

Abidah


Sincerity in Islam: a Sermon by Abu Bakr As-Siddiq

July 15, 2011

From: Quran & Science

A Sermon by Abu Bakr As-Siddiq (radi Allahu anhu) on Sincerity and drawing Lessons

Abu Bakr As-Siddiq (radi Allahu anhu) gave a speech once and started it with praising Allah and thanking Him, then said:

“Verily, Allah does not accept deeds except those which were performed for the Sake of His Face only. Therefore, seek Allah’s Face by your actions. Know that whatever action you do with sincerity to Allah is an act of obedience that you performed, a good share that you earned, a duty that you fulfilled, and a reserve that you keep from perishable days to everlasting days. At that time you will be most in need and in anticipation (for these good deeds).”

 O slaves of Allah! Draw a lesson from those who died before you. Think about those who lived before you. Where were they yesterday? Where are they today? Where are the tyrants who were noted for the wars they waged and earned victories in battle? Time has eliminated them and they disintegrated to dust. The only things that remain from them are their evil statements, and verily, evil statements are for evil people and evil people are for evil statements. Where are the kings who ruled on the earth and inhabited it? They have become a thing of the past and their memory has been forgotten. They have become nothing. Yet, Allah, the Exalted and Most Honored, has kept for them the evil burden of their deeds, but ended their streak of lusts. They perished, but the deeds they committed remained theirs even though the world has become for others. We were created after them, so if we draw lessons from their fate we will attain deliverance. Otherwise, if we were deceived by all of this, we will earn a fate similar to theirs.

 There are the bright faces of those who were deceived on account of their youth? They have turned into dust, but what they committed of shortcomings remained with them as cause for sorrow. Where are those who built cities, fortified them with walls and collected wonders? They left all this for those who came after them; there you see the remains of their cities, they have not been inhabited after them. Meanwhile, they are in the darkness of graves: {“Can you find a single one of them or hear even a whisper of them?”} (19:98)

Where are those whom you knew among your forefathers and brethren? Their lifetimes came to an end and they joined their deeds and actions. They are residing after they died either in the dwelling of happiness or misery.”

 “Verily, Allah is One and has no partners in worship. There is no tie of kinship between Him and any of His creation that warrants granting goodness or fending off evil on account of that kinship. There is only the obedience of Allah and abiding by His Commandments. Know that you are subservient slaves (of Allah) and that what He has can only be earned through obeying Him. Is it not time for one of you that the Fire be taken away from him, while Paradise is not made far from his reach?”

[Al-Bidayah wan-Nihayah, by Al-Hafiz Ibn Kathir, and At-Tarikh, by At-Tabari, vol. 3, p. 311]


The Journey of Life

March 3, 2011

I love this site mashalllah- they always have great articles so please bookmark them..www.igotitcovered.org

 

Each day we are given the choice of choosing between the “legroom” of this dunya and the expansiveness of the akhirah.

I’m sitting on a train right now and the ride has definitely been less than pleasant. We have encountered many delays and what should have been a five and a half hour train ride has turned into about a seven hour one. I’ve been sitting here and looking out the window for over an hour. The trees are passing us by, sometimes so slow that I can see every detail on a single leaf and sometimes so fast that the entire figure just becomes a blur of green. I’ve been watching the world pass me by, one tree at a time and I realize that this train ride is just a short version of our life.

Our entire lives are spent on a train. We pass each day, one at a time; sometimes the days pass by so quickly that we don’t realize where the time went and sometimes one day can seem never-ending. But no matter what, we know that this train is not our final destination. This train is simply a mode of transportation, bringing us closer and closer to our final stop. This ride may seem like it’s everlasting, but that’s only because we cannot see the bigger picture. We are so narrow-minded, so consumed in our own thoughts and lives that we refuse to acknowledge our reason for being here in the first place. It is not the train ride that is our final goal, but the destination at the end of the tracks.

train tracks on a mountain side

Allah subhanu wa ta’ala has given us the Quran, a set of guidelines to follow, so that we may be successful once we reach our destination, but just as passengers on this train refuse to read the “Passenger Safety Instructions,” we refuse to understand the Quran as we should, in order to protect ourselves from the crash that comes at the end.

 

Why does it become so difficult for us to accept the decree of Allah ta’ala? When we are on a train, we look forward to reaching our destination. We look forward to whom we will see and what we will do. However, on the train of life, we don’t look forward to the destination at the end, the akhira. We don’t look forward to reaching jannah and having our own rivers of milk and honey. Rather, we waste our time focusing on our short life, which will seem like nothing once we reach the Day of Judgment.

 

We complain about the commands from our Lord; simple commands such as wearing hijab or praying. We refuse to “inconvenience” ourselves, even though we know this is a very short journey. So what if you don’t have a lot of legroom or you’re not sitting in first class? It is better for us to be slightly uncomfortable for a short train ride, than be in excruciating pain once we reach our destination. The best thing to do during this journey is prioritize our time according to how long we will be in the dunya and how long we will spend in the akhira.

 

What would happen if after the train left the station, the conductor told everyone, “This train will crash. You should read the Passenger Safety Instructions so you know what to do when it does.” Would all the passengers read it? Would they prepare themselves so that they could survive the crash? Would they help others? Or would they sit there thinking that the conductor is a liar and there would be no crash at the end?

 

We have entered this dunya and Allah subhanu wa ta’ala has told us that we will die, we will be accountable. Then why do we sit around acting like it won’t happen?

 


There are Times in Life, You Just Have to Laugh

March 3, 2011

I just had to post this article to share with you all,,from the son of a dear friend, Ahmad makes an important point that too often we forget. Sometimes life just runs away with us and we need to find a way to put on the brakes!!! Enjoy and watch his link for future interesting posts..

 

 

A typical day for me consists of being locked up in a classroom on campus all day and then coming home to enjoy the constant yelling of my 2 year old sister…there’s no such thing as silence in our home. A couple nights ago I get home, sit at the table, start eating dinner and working on my laptop. Being the nosy little thing that she is my sister comes by pokes around in my backpack, try’s to pick food off my plate and is just being a nuisance. Later on she asks me to open the wrapper to a chocolate for her. I open the wrapper and she runs off happily. A few minutes later the troll returns, sits next to me and smiles. (She might only be 2 but she knew exactly what she was about to do) Smiling, she looks at me, throws the chocolate at me and then immediately smacks her chocolate infested hands all over the keyboard on my MacBook…now I’m livid. At the time I was PISSED! But I’m writing about it now and laughing as I look at her.

washing a keyboard

not recommended

Sometimes we need to stop for a second and ask ourselves how significant is what just happened. Steven Covey wrote about the 90/10 principle; “10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.” Had I taken this principle into consideration before steaming through my ears I probably would’ve laughed and taken a few good photos I could have posted. Instead I just have a bunch of words on a page and a little sister who will probably do it again since she gets a kick out of making me mad. All it really took was the swipe of a paper towel to clean the mess, so I obviously overacted to such an insignificant thing.

Were always going to be faced with some type of adversity or hardship no matter what we do in life. But don’t be afraid to just pause for a moment and laugh, you’d be amazed at how much more fun things are when your not taking them so seriously.

from: http://ahmadtaleb.tumblr.com/post/3414863283/sometimes-you-just-have-to-laugh?sms_ss=facebook&at_xt=4d6fdd85a7d5ade2,0


Spirituality, Religious Wisdom, and the Care of the Patient

December 26, 2010

Dignity and Patient Care: An Islamic Perspective

By:  Ingrid Mattson

There is a great diversity of culture among the approximately 6 million Muslims who live in the United States. The cultural traditions of African-Americans, South Asians, Arabs, Turks, Eastern Europeans and others might influence the way in which any particular Muslim in the United States responds to illness and other life crises. Sacred texts and traditions, particularly the Qur’an and the Sunna-the example of the Prophet Muhammad-are the primary sources for a shared spiritual or religious response to illness among Muslims.

According to the Qur’an, all human beings (“children of Adam”) have been granted dignity by God: “We have dignified the children of Adam, and borne them over land and sea, and provided them with good and pure things for sustenance, and favored them far above a great part of Our creation (Qur’an 17:70).” The Prophet Muhammad is reported to have said that Adam was created in God’s image; dignity and nobility are part of each human’s birthright. Although the Qur’an recognizes that humans are easily tempted, it rejects the notion of original sin. In Islam, humans are not “essentially” sinners, rather, each human is born pure and is inclined towards goodness. In Islamic theology, society bears a heavy responsibility for suppressing and distorting the natural goodness of each human. In the end, however, every person should choose a life of goodness for themselves; this individual act of choice is the key to human dignity, and what raises humans above others of God’s creation.

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