What Does it Mean to Be the Best?

August 12, 2010

choosing the best

When we’re told that ‘this is the best’ or ‘that was the greatest’ or ‘this will bring the most benefit’ etc, have you ever pondered who on Earth gave such people/editors/ authors the authority to inform us of these standards of excellence?
In an age when we are bombarded with ‘Top 10’ or ‘Top 100’ lists on everything from cars to films, from foods to places, the truly thoughtful person wonders where is the list that will truly provide  benefits to us in this current short life and the very very long (eternal) Life to come.

Here, from a choice of hundreds of narrations from our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him), you can find 100 hadith – in no particular order of merit – detailing ways on exactly how to become the best, how to have the most excellent characteristics, what really will prove most beneficial for us to know, what really are the greatest things to think about and hope for and indeed, how to become the most beloved of people to our Exalted Creator, Allah.

No more subjectivity, no more empty statements; just the divine criteria of what really is the best as developed by the very best himself, Muhammad (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him)

Enjoy and learn…

1. “The best of the Muslims is he from whose hand and tongue the Muslims are safe.” [Muslim]

2. “The best of people are those with the most excellent character.” [Tabarani, Sahih]

3. “The best of people are those that bring most benefit to the rest of mankind.” [Daraqutni, Hasan]

4. “The best of people are those who are best in fulfilling rights..” [Ibn Majah, Sahih]

5. “The best of people during fitnah is a man who takes up the reins of his horse pursuing the enemies of Allah, causing them fear yet they make him fearful too, or a man who secludes himself in the desert fulfilling the rights of Allah upon him.” [Hakim, Sahih]

6. “The best of mankind is my generation, then those that follow them and then those that follow them. Then there shall come a people after them who will become avaricious, who will love gluttony, and who will give witness before they are asked for it.” [Tirmidhi, Sahih]

7. “The best of people are those who live longest and excel in their deeds, whereas the worst of people are those who live longest and corrupt their deeds.” [Tirmidhi, Sahih]

8. “The best of women are those that please him [her husband] when he sees her, obeys him when she is asked, and who does not secretly betray him with regards to herself and her money in that which he dislikes.” [Ahmad, Sahih]

9. “The best of women are those that please you when you see them, obey you when asked, and who safeguard themselves and your money in your absence.” [Tabarani, Sahih]

10. “The best of marriages are the easiest ones.” [Abu Dawud, Sahih]

11. “The best of your dates is the Borniyyu date; it expels disease yet does not contain any disease itself.” [Hakim, Hasan] Read the rest of this entry »


WOMEN’S STATUS IN ISLAM: WOMEN AS WIVES

February 10, 2010

Hadith showing that best believers are those best to their wives

Women as Wives

Allah, the Exalted, says in the Glorious Qur’an:

(Among His signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy.)

[30:21]

One of the great signs of the Benevolence, Mercy and Power of Allah, the Exalted, is that He created for mankind mates, one from the other, so that they are comforted, satisfied and assisted by one another. The basic foundation of the society is the family, and the husband and the wife are co-partners in that family upon which a Muslim home is established. For the success of the family and the tranquility of the home, Islam grants each spouse certain rights and duties. We will only focus on the rights of the wives in the following section.

Dowry

A dowry is the right of every bride at the time of marriage. A marriage contract is not considered legal and complete unless and until a dowry has been specified. This right cannot be forfeited, even if the bride approves, until after the marriage contract is completed. The dowry belongs to the woman entering marriage, and she has the freedom to do whatever she wants with what she owns after the marriage contract is fulfilled. Allah, the Exalted, states in the Glorious Qur’an:

(Give the women whom you marry their dowry with a good heart. If they remit any part of it to you, of their own good pleasure, take it and enjoy it fully without fear of any harm.)

[4:4]

The husband is not allowed to take anything back from the dowry if he decides later to divorce her; as Allah, the Exalted, states in the Glorious Qur’an:

(If you intend to replace a wife by another and you have given one of them a huge sum of gold as dowry, take not the least of it back; would you take it wrongfully without a right and with a manifest sin. And how can you take it back while you have entered with intimate relationship unto each other, and they (the wives) have taken from you a firm and strong covenant?)

[4:20-1]

This verse indicates, significantly, the sacredness of the marriage vows and the intimacy of the marriage relationship, as well as the right of retaining the dowry gift in case of divorce. Allah, the Exalted, also states in the Glorious Qur’an:

(O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the dowry you have given them, unless they commit open illegal sexual intercourse. Live with them honorably; if you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.

[4:19]

This verse ensures the wife’s rights and complete justice even if the man dislikes her for any reason. This is also mentioned in an authentic prophetic tradition wherein Abu Hurairah (may Allah exalt their mention) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon Him) said:

“A believer must not hate a believing woman (i.e. his wife): if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another.”

[Muslim #1469]

Financial Support

The husband must give honorable and sufficient sustenance to his household according to his status and means. Allah, the Exalted, says:

(Let the rich man spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him. Allah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him. Allah will grant after hardship ease.)

[65:7]

If a sufficiently rich man refuses to spend on his family in accordance with his level of means, and the wife was able to take a portion of his wealth, she may take that which satisfies her essential needs and that of her children, avoiding wastage and extravagance. Hind bint ‘Utbah came to the Prophet (Peace be upon Him) complaining about her husband, saying: Read the rest of this entry »


Valentine’s Day: Its History and Innovation

February 10, 2010


As February 14th approaches many are getting ready to send heart shaped/decorated  cards, candies, red flowers and numerous other items to their “loved ones”.   Yet have we ever stopped to really consider the history of this holiday and its significance?  I hope that after reading this article you will have more information to understand why many scholars encourage us to stick with celebrating our two Eids as was the habit of the Prophet Mohammed pbuh and his companions.  One question to ask ourselves, why is it that we have the need to follow others and imitate them in their actions?  Do you find them celebrating Eid al Adha? Most likely not!  What may seem as such a simple minor act to enjoy a day soon becomes a tradition or habit which actually has no part in Islamic teachings.   Finally, it is vital to remember that the behavior and example of the Prophet, pbuh, shows us that actually every day should be a celebration of respect, love and honor for those we care about and love.

Sakina and Sara


Valentines:  Its Reality and Ruling

The religion of Islam is complete, so there is absolutely no need for invented opinions, innovated desires or man-made legislation. The blessings and favours that have been given to us by Islam are all-inclusive and so we do not have any need for seasons and occasions to be invented so that we may celebrate them.

Allaah Says (what means): “This day I have perfected for you your religion and completed My favour upon you and have approved for you Islam as a religion.” [Quran 5: 3]

Our religion is supreme, it is the most perfect one. It combines the good of this life and the Hereafter; it addressed the soul and was not heedless of the body; it gave preference to the Hereafter but did not neglect our needs in this life. Allaah Says (what means): “But seek, through that which Allaah has given you, the home of the Hereafter.”

[Quran 28: 77]

Our religion is a moderate religion that is neither negligent of any matter, nor does it exaggerate any issue beyond its rightful status. There is no monasticism in Islam, nor blind-materialism,  Allaah Says (what means): “Thus We have made you a median (i.e. just) community that you will be witnesses over the people and the Messenger will be a witness over you.” [Quran 2: 143]

How is it that the believers can squander this position, which Allaah granted them and become humiliated while they still have the Quran and the Sunnah to refer to? Why would we be pleased with becoming mere followers after enjoying the position of leadership ? How can we go astray and become blind-imitators after being guides ? What possesses a person to become a slave who carries out orders, after being a master?

The answer to these questions lies in the saying of the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam as narrated by Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri : “You will follow in the footsteps of those who came before you hand-span by hand-span and (the length of an) arm by arm, such that even if they enter into the dwelling place of a lizard you would still follow them.” The Companions  asked: “O Messenger of Allaah, do you mean (by ‘those who came before you’) the Jews and the Christians?” He sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam replied: “Who else ?” [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim]

So, once again, we have the army of disbelief attacking us, propagating the celebration of a holiday – and what a deceitful and treacherous holiday it is! A holiday which they have given a name other than its actual one in order to mislead people, they gave it a noble name to deceive the pure and the chaste. They called it the day of love, while it is actually the day of immorality, prostitution and drinking. They spread immorality dressed in the garment of virtue and this is the age-old method that Satan uses.

Allaah exposed this tactic in His Book when He says regarding the deception of Satan of our father Aadam and our mother Hawwaa’ (what means): “And he swore (by Allaah) to them both: ‘Indeed, I am to you from among the sincere advisors’”[Quran 7: 21]

Beware of the deceiver who approaches you with an advising tongue, for he knows that if he were to openly state his intention, he would never attain his objectives. Allaah Says (what means): “But they plan, and Allaah plans. And Allaah is the best of planners.” [Quran 8: 30]

The History of how Valentine Started ?

It is claimed that pagan Greece used to celebrate on the fifteenth day of February every year which coincided with aspring holiday. At that time Christianity was new to the area. The emperor Claudius II forbade marriage for his soldiers. Valentine, a Christian priest challenged this command and used to conduct secret marriage sermons. He was soon discovered and was sentenced to death. While in prison he fell in love with the daughter of a prison guard, but this was a secret since Christianity forbade priests to marry or have romantic relations with women, but since he remained steadfast on Christianity, the people overlooked his crime of falling in love. The emperor offered to forgive him and make him one of his close companions and marry one of his daughters to him, on the condition that he gave up Christianity, but Valentine favoured Christianity and was executed on the fourteenth of February, 270 CE – the night before the celebration of the Greek spring holiday of the fifteenth of February. Ever since then, it was called Priest Valentine’s holiday. After the spread of Christianitythroughout Europe, February the fourteenth was re-named ‘Valentine’s Day’ in his memory because (they claim) he sacrificed himself for Christianity and fostered those in love.

That was the story behind this holiday. Unfortunately many young men and women were deceived by this, due to the weakness of their faith, ignorance of Islam, heedlessness and the lack of guidance by the Muslim scholars and leaders. The ignorant youth were hoodwinked into celebrating this holiday.

Among the manifestations of this holiday are the giving of red roses, the wearing of red dresses, and exchanging special greetings, cards and gifts. This is a day where one is ‘supposed’ to remember their wives or lovers. This holiday is so ingrained in western culture that remembering this day and celebrating it has become a sign of ‘true and sincere love’ and it is not uncommon for one who forgets  about this day to be thought of as ‘insincere’ and ‘untrue’ in his or her love!

Every Muslim must know that this holiday was invented by the disbelievers and it is therefore unlawful to celebrate it according to the religion of Islam. There is no difference of opinion among the Muslim scholars regarding this.

In fact, even if this holiday was invented by the Muslims it would still be unlawful to celebrate it.

Aaishah  narrated that the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam said: “He who innovates something in our matter (i.e. the religion of Islam), will have it rejected.” [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim]

Anas Ibn Maalik  narrated that when the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam came to Madeenah, he sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam found people celebrating a two-day memorial which dated back to the time of Jaahiliyyah (the pre-Islamic era). He sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam said: “Allaah Has replaced these for you with two better days; the day of Eedul-Adh-haa (sacrifice) and the day of Eedul-Fitr (following Ramadhaan).” [Ahmad, An-Nasaai & Abu Daawood)]

Shaykh Abu Hafs An-Nisfi went as far as to say: ‘He who offers an egg as a gift to a disbeliever in glorification of their day of celebration becomes a disbeliever’”.

Allaah warned us from following the disbelievers or supporting them and commanded us to differ from them. He Almighty Says (what means): “O you who have believed! Take not those who have taken your religion in ridicule and amusement among the ones who were given the Scripture before you nor the disbelievers as allies. And fear Allaah if you should (truly) be believers.” [Quran: 5: 57]

The Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam said: “He who resembles a group of people will be with them (in the Hereafter).” [Ahmad and others]

How can it be that a Muslim accepts for himself and his family the celebration of an immoral holiday innovated by disbelievers; Valentines Day, the claimed celebration of love? How can he allow his family to celebrate the holiday of a Christian priest, Valentine, who was cursing Allaah day and night by saying: “He is one of three, He had a wife, He had begotten a son etc.” ?

Allaah is exalted far above what they attribute to Him.

Allaah Says (what means): “And they say: ‘The Most Merciful (Allaah) has taken (for Himself) a son. You have done an atrocious thing. The heavens almost rupture therefrom and the earth splits open and the mountains collapse in devastation. That they attribute to the Most Merciful a son. And it is not appropriate for the Most Merciful that He should take a son. There is no one in the heavens and earth but that he comes to the Most Merciful as a servant. He has enumerated them and counted them a (full) counting. And all of them are coming to Him on the Day of resurrection alone.”[Quran 19: 88-95]

Allaah Says (what means): “Be not deceived by the (uninhibited) movement of the disbelievers throughout the land, (It is but) a small enjoyment; then their (final) refuge is Hell, and wretched is the resting place!” [Quran 3: 196-197]

Do not be deceived by them and what they doing because this life is a temporary one and it is vanishing fast. Allaah Says (what means): “But the Hereafter is better and more lasting”(Al-A’laa: 17)

and also: “It will be, on the Day they see it, as though they had not remained (in the world) except for an afternoon or a morning thereof.” [Quran 79: 46]

Beware of these holidays which have been invented by the disbelievers and warn people against them; be proud of your religion; be distinct from the misguided; do not follow in their footsteps or be affected by their ideas; ask Allaah to guide you and keep you steadfast.

Do not allow the uncertain to fool you; dont allow the disbelievers to misguide you; be proud of your religion and your celebrations; preserve your identity; and do not resemble or imitate the disbelievers because it leads to destruction and Hell.

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DU’A a DAY: INCREASE ME IN KNOWLEDGE

January 7, 2010

الحمد لله رب العالمين وصلى الله وسلم على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وأصحابه ومن اهتدى بهديه إلى يوم الدين أما بعد
 السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
 
 
“Allahumma infa’ni bima ‘allamtani, wa allimni maa yanfa’oni wa zidni ‘ilman, alhamdulillahi alaa kulli haal, wa a’odtho billahi min haali ahlil naar.”
 
O Allah, grant me benefit in what Thou hast taught me, teach me what will benefit me,
and increase my knowledge. Praise be to Allah in all circumstances.
I seek refuge in Allah from the state of those who go to Hell.”
(Al-Tirmidhi HadithHadith 2482 Narrated by)

  
 
سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك، اشهد أن لا إله إلا أنت
استغفرك و أتوب إليك
و السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته
فِي أَمَانِ اللَّه
لبيبه صبري  
 
 

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Hadeeth: Three people’s du`aa are never rejected: the one who is fasting, until he breaks his fast; the just ruler and the one who has been wronged. Allah raises it above the clouds and the doors of the skies are opened for it, and the Lord says, ‘By My Honour and Glory! I will help you, even if it be after some time!’”
[Tirmidhi]

For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/A-DUA-A-DAY
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December 30, 2009

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WHAT IS ZAKAT AND HOW DO I PAY IT?

September 14, 2009

Zakaat and Zakaat Al-Fitra are different.

Those who have given Zakaat also needs to pay “Zakaat Al-Fitra”

before they attend the Eid Salaat.

If they Pay after the Eid Salaat…  then it would be considered as “normal charity” and Not “Zakaat Al-Fitra”

Definition

Zakaat al-Fitr is a kind of charity (sadaqah) that is obligatory at the time of breaking the fast of Ramadaan. The word zakaat is connected byidaafah (genitive structure in Arabic grammar) tofitr because the occasion of breaking the fast is the reason why this zakaat becomes obligatory.

Reasons for zakaat al-fitr and what Islam says about it

Ibn Abbaas said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) made zakaat al-fitr obligatory as a means of purifying the fasting person from idle talk and foul language, and to feed the poor. Whoever pays it before the prayer, it is an accepted zakaat, and whoever pays it after the prayer, it is just a kind of charity (sadaqah).”

(Reported by Abu Dawood, 1371. Al-Nawawi said: Abu Dawood reported it from Ibn Abbaas with a hasan isnaad).

“Purifying” means purifying the soul of the one who has fasted Ramadaan. With regard to the word “foul language”, Ibn al-Atheer said: “ ‘Foul language’ refers to obscene speech. ‘Feeding [the poor]’ refers to food that is edible. ‘Whoever pays it before the prayer’ means before Salaat al-‘Eid. ‘It is an accepted zakaat’ – here zakaat means sadaqat al-fitr. ‘Just a kind of charity’ means a kind of charity that could be given at any time.”

(Awn al-Mabood Sharh Abi Dawood).

It was said that this is what was meant by the aayah in Soorat al-Alaa (interpretation of the meaning): “But those will prosper who purify themselves, and glorify the name of their Guardian-Lord, and (lift their hearts) in Prayer.” [al-A’laa 87:14-15 – Yusuf Ali’s translation]. It was reported that ‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez and Abu’l-‘Aaliyah said: “He [the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)] paid zakaat al-fitr then he went out for the prayer – i.e., Salaat al-‘Eid.

(Al-Jassaas, Ahkaam al-Qur’aan, part 3, Soorat al-A’laa).

Wakee ibn al-Jarraah said: “Zakaat al-fitr for the month of Ramadaan is like two sajdahs of sahw for the prayer. It makes up for any shortcomings in the fast as the prostrations make up for any shortcomings in the prayer.”

(Al-Nawawi, al-Majmoo’, part 6).

Rulings on zakaat al-fitr

The correct view is that it is fard (obligatory) , because Ibn ‘Umar said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) made zakaat al-fitr obligatory,” and because of the consensus of the scholars (ijmaa’) that it is fard.

(Al-Mughni, part 2, Baab Sadaqat al-Fitr). Read the rest of this entry »


About Debt in Islam

September 8, 2009

In a response to a question about debt in Islam I would like to post this reposnse which was taken from Islam Q and A :http://islam-qa.com/en/ref/71183

Praise be to Allaah.

THE HEAVINESS OF DEBT IN MORE THAN ONE WAY

THE HEAVINESS OF DEBT IN MORE THAN ONE WAY

Firstly:

The fuqaha’ define dayn (debt) as an obligation to be fulfilled, as it says in al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah (21/102). The linguistic meaning of the word dayn (debt) in Arabic has to do with submission and humiliation. The connection between the shar’i meaning and the linguistic meaning is clear. The debtor is a prisoner, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Your companion is being detained by his debt.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 3341; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.

Secondly

Islam takes the matter of debt very seriously and warns against it and urges the Muslim to avoid it as much as possible.

It was narrated from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say in his prayer: “Allaahumma inni a’oodhi bika min al-ma’tham wa’l-maghram (O Allaah, I seek refuge with You from sin and heavy debt).” Someone said to him: “How often you seek refuge from heavy debt!” He said: “When a man gets into debt, he speak and tells lies, and he makes a promise and breaks it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (832) and Muslim (589).

Al-Nasaa’i (4605) narrated that Muhammad ibn Jahsh (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:

We were sitting with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he raised his head towards the sky, then he put his palm on his forehead and said: “Subhaan-Allaah!  What a strict issue has been revealed to me!” We remained silent and were afraid. The following morning I asked him, “O Messenger of Allaah, what is this strict issue that has been revealed?” He said, “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if a man were killed in battle for the sake of Allaah, then brought back to life, then killed and brought back to life again, then killed, and he owed a debt, he would not enter Paradise until his debt was paid off.” Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’i, 4367. Read the rest of this entry »


Allah knows what is best for us

July 2, 2009

Whatever Allaah Does …. It Is For Our Best

by Asma bint Shameem

When my daughter was 2 years old, she loved to play with the water in the commode. Yes, thats right….the commode.

Yuck!! That’s nasty ! You would say.

splash of water

But to her, that was the delight of the day! Splish…splash! To her there was nothing like it! And so when I would prevent her from it, she would scream and cry and wouldnt want to stop. She didnt understand how harmful that was for her. In her little mind, I took away something that she really enjoyed.

And when I would take her to the doctor to have her immunization shots, she didn’t understand either. She would howl at the top of her lungs at the first sight of the needle and would run the other way. It would take two of us just to hold her down! To her, frankly, it was plain torture! Her innocent little mind simply could not evenbegin to understand how, on earth, could being tortured by a needle, be good for you?!! She didn’t realize that this ‘needle’ will Insha Allaah protect her from certain illnesses and harm that is much more severe than the prick of this little needle.

So what’s the point here ?

The point I am trying to make is that we, as parents sometimes do things for our kids, out of our great love and concern for them, which they may not understand. They do not see the wisdom behind it, although we do, and so we carry out those things because we know it will be better for them. Read the rest of this entry »


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