Behavior Speaks Louder than Words!

December 27, 2011

Many times we go through our daily routines without much thought, even such acts as wudu and prayer.  Once someone passed on a quote, “keep smiling for you never know who may fall in love with it”.  It reminded me that all of our actions count, not just our smile.  Sometimes the smallest of our actions may leave a lasting print on someone we cross paths with.  I will never forget one of my staff: I was required to do a bi-yearly staff evaluation which consisted of sitting in on a few classes and writing up a form and submitting it.  This surely affected her chances of getting a merit raise or other benefits.  However, due to a heavy schedule I was not always able to sit in on the 11 classes with the frequency that I really should have. When it came time to write up the appraisal, I made a few strict comments about her always keeping to herself and not interacting with her peers and a few other classroom management issues.  When she was requested to sign it she turned the form in with stiff replies to all points and the basis was- how could I effectively evaluate her when I had not attended her class more than twice.

In all fairness, she was right.  I had not spent enough time to be able to give her a full evaluation.  Maybe other supervisors would have been upset or felt threatened by such a response from an employee.  However I knew that she was right and was only asking for fair treatment.  In the subsequent portion of the school year, I gained a new respect for the teacher as she put more effort into rectifying her shortfalls.  At the same time, I made more of an effort to appreciate her work and to notice it.  Because of her courage to stand up for what was right, I learned a valuable lesson in dealing with colleagues.  I started to increase my attention of the teachers’ best efforts, and tried to give them support to overcome weak areas.

A few years later I decided to stop working and focus on my family. During that time, this particular teacher sent me a message out of the blue telling me how much she had appreciated working with me and she listed a few things that I had done that had really had a positive affect upon her as a person.  One of them was noticing people and recognizing their value as an individual.  I never thought about that.  It just seemed a normal thing that we should do for each other, yet she was not the only one to mention this point.  Time and again it was said how much I had influenced a person, changed how they looked at things, encouraged them to go past what they thought was their limit, and how I was able to see the lion hiding within the kitten.

I often think back to that message.  It touched me so deeply and made me realize that often its the little things which we do that have an impact on people, hopefully in a positive way.  We may never know or hear of how we touched someone’s life.  Our behavior or actions may be planted as seeds and take a long time to grow, but we know that the seeds are there.  For this reason we should always think how we represent ourselves, as human beings and as Muslims.  Does our behavior coincide with Islamic teachings? Does our hijab or dress present the real teachings or are we tied up in trying to be modern? Are we shy to convey to others what we believe in?

The following video is short but the point is so clear!  What we do– or DON’T do– may have strong effects upon those who come in contact with us.  Let us be aware and try to improve ourselves so that we  can always promote the best knowledge, behaviors and attitudes.


LAST SERMON BY PROPHET MOHAMMED- AMAZING VIDEO

August 28, 2010

Last Sermon By Prophet Muhammad SaW – Must To Share With All

by Saeed Ibn George  (videos)9:17Its a duty upon every Muslim to share this message to others
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((I ADVISE TO TURN DOWN THE MUSIC AS IT IS DISTRACTING )
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After praising, and thanking Allah he said:

“O People, lend me an attentive ear, for I know not whether after this year, I shall ever be amongst you again. Therefore listen to what I am saying to you very carefully and TAKE THESE WORDS TO THOSE WHO COULD NOT BE PRESENT HERE TODAY.

O People, just as you regard this month, this day, this city as Sacred, so regard the life and property of every Muslim as a sacred trust. Return the goods entrusted to you to their rightful owners. Hurt no one so that no one may hurt you. Remember that you will indeed meet your LORD, and that HE will indeed reckon your deeds. ALLAH has forbidden you to take usury (interest), therefore all interest obligation shall henceforth be waived. Your capital, however, is yours to keep. You will neither inflict nor suffer any inequity. Allah has Judged that there shall be no interest and that all the interest due to Abbas ibn ‘Abd’al Muttalib (Prophet’s uncle) shall henceforth be waived…

Beware of Satan, for the safety of your religion. He has lost all hope that he will ever be able to lead you astray in big things, so beware of following him in small things.

O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah’s trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.

O People, listen to me in earnest, worship ALLAH, say your five daily prayers (Salah), fast during the month of Ramadan, and give your wealth in Zakat. Perform Hajj if you can afford to.

All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves.

Remember, one day you will appear before ALLAH and answer your deeds. So beware, do not stray from the path of righteousness after I am gone.

O People, NO PROPHET OR APOSTLE WILL COME AFTER ME AND NO NEW FAITH WILL BE BORN. Reason well, therefore, O People, and understand words which I convey to you. I leave behind me two things, the QURAN and my example, the SUNNAH and if you follow these you will never go astray.

All those who listen to me shall pass on my words to others and those to others again; and may the last ones understand my words better than those who listen to me directly. Be my witness, O ALLAH, that I have conveyed your message to your people”.


THE BEAUTY OF FORGIVENESS

August 24, 2010

FLOWER POEM ABOUT FORGIVINGThere is a story narrated by Anas Ibn Maalik ,, as he and some fellow companions were sitting with the Prophet (SAW) once when the Prophet (SAW) said :
“A man from the dwellers of paradise will walk in now.” Shortly after, a man entered whose beard was dripping wet from ablution (wudu) and he held his slippers in his left hand.

For the next two days, the Prophet (SAW) would say this each time and the same man would walk in upon the Prophet (SAW)’s words.

When the Prophet (SAW) left the gathering, Abdullaah Ibn Amr went to the man and asked permission to spend 3 nights in his house.

So for those 3 nights, Abdullaah Ibn Amr studied the man but did not notice him to make any extra effort in performing extra deeds. After the 3 nights, Abdullaah Ibn Amr told the man that he had in fact asked to stay at his house in order to imitate him, because the Prophet (SAW) had said that he will become a dweller of paradise . .

He asked him:
“How did you reach such status to deserve what the Prophet (SAW) said about you?”

The man then replied:
“My deeds are nothing more than what you saw, except that every night before I sleep, I forgive everyone who has wronged me and do not hold grudges against them.”


ARE WE PROMISED ANOTHER RAMADAN?

August 28, 2009


Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam ‘ala Rasulillah
As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu
What is the  Guarantee that this is
Not our FINAL RAMADHAAN

Benefits of Ramadhaan (we need Ramadhaan)
Abu Uwais Abdullaah Ali
Transcribed by: Umm Hasna Firdous Bint Jabir

Ramadhaan is a month of Forgiveness.

Ramadhaan is a month of Rahmah.

Ramadhaan is the month of generosity.

Ramadhaan, the month that Allaah subhaanahu wa taala accepts the Tawbah of the servants, and the month that Allaah blesses His servants.

We are in need of Ramadhaan to correct ourselves, for we have forgotten Allaah tabarak wa taala for the majority of the year.

To correct ourselves for we have been neglectful.

To correct ourselves for we are not upon the remembrance of Allaah.

To correct ourselves because our hearts have gotten hard, some hearts are dead, some hearts are sick, some hearts are stone-cold, some hearts are black, getting no benefit whatsoever. Some hearts are so bad, and so ill that they see a good as a Munkar, (as an evil), and they see an evil as a good. These are not as they should be.

We need a Ramadhaan.

We need a Ramadhaan because our connection with Allaah tabarak wa taala is not correct.

We need a Ramadhaan because we do not have any Khushoo or devotion in our Salaah.

We need a Ramadhaan because our Quraan has dust and is sitting o n a shelf.

We need a Ramadhaan because we never read the books of Sunnah.

We need a Ramadhaan because we dont fast, and if we fast physically without food or drink, we dont fast with our eyes by lowering them and our tongue by not slandering and our tongue by not lying and back-biting.

We need a Ramadhaan to get ourselves back in order, to work for the Hereafter, to connect ourselves to Allaah tabarak wa taala.

We need a Ramadhaan because relationships brother to brother and sister to sister is in a miserable condition.

We need a Ramadhaan because we have bad thoughts about o ne another.

We need a Ramadhaan because of dhulm, injustice to o ne another.

We need a Ramadhaan because there is backbiting, there is envy, there is jealousy, and there is slander.

We need a Ramadhaan because we are despicable, because we are sick, because we are  ill. (All these are diseases of the heart)

We need a Ramadhaan because we dont believe in the promise of Allaah tabarak wa taala, or if we do, we do not  implement it.

We need a Ramadhaan because it is time for us to change and become something better then we are now.

We need a Ramadhaan because that is  the o nly thing that is  going to get us together…

We need a Ramadhaan because we dont have unity, theres no brotherhood

We need a Ramadhaan because theres no respect for elders

We need a Ramadhaan because theres no real love between us

We need a Ramadhaan, full of love and the Mercy of Allaah tabarak wa taala.

A Ramadhaan like we come in, like in a clinic or a hospital, trying to solve our illnesses, trying to come out of there without the disease we came with, trying to be better than we went in with.

We need a Ramadhaan.

Look around you, look to your right, look to your left, look in front of you and look behind you and you will say,  “We need a Ramadhaan”.

The sisters arent covering properly, we need a Ramadhaan.

Brothers and sisters are mixing. We need a Ramadhaan. Talking o n phones and o n the internet, we need a Ramadhaan. This is a mess, we are in a fix, we are in a bind, and this is a problem…

We need a Ramadhaan.

We need a Ramadhaan to get ourselves together.

We need a Ramadhaan, that we come in the Masjid and we face the Qiblah and we say “Allaahu Akbar” and we stand in qiyaamah a long time until those diseases, that filth, that sickness, that hardness  the heart goes away.

We need a Ramadhaan that reminds us of the Hell-fire.

We need a Ramadhaan that tells us that we havent been given a certificate that we are people of Jannah.

We need a Ramadhaan that lets us known that we are servants of Allaah tabarak wa taala.

And if we were to spend our whole life, from the time we were born until Yawm al Qiyaamah in Sajdaah, it would not be enough to thank Allaah for His Mercy, His Grace and His Blessings.

We need a Ramadhaan and it is clear. If there is any fear of Allaah left in the hearts of ours and if there is any hope of Jannaah left in us, and if there is any desire to change and to be better and to be righteous and to come to the level of Ihsaan, to come to the level of a Mumim, to have taqwa, to fear Allaah … we need a Ramadhaan.

We need a Ramadhaan, a month of Tawbaah.

We need a Ramadhaan, a month of Maghfira.

We need a Ramadhaan to correct our behaviour, to correct the differences & the difficulties and the envy / jealousies in our relationship between o ne another.

We need a Ramadhaan to understand that we have been committing injustice to o ne another.

And as the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said : Az-Zulm (injustice) – “Zulumaat yawmal Qiyaamah” –will be changed physically into darkness o n the Day of Judgement.

We need a Ramadhaan to understand the Hadith : to fear the duaa of the o ne to whom we have done injustice.  For there is not between Allaah and the person making the invocation, the person making that supplication of the person to whom injustice has been done, there is no veil between that person and Allaah. That duaa is immediately accepted.

Why I cant get ahead?

Why I cant progress in my Deen?

Why I cant memorize this ayah?

Why I cant understand this hadeeth?

We may be living under the invocation, the answer for invocation for someone whom we abused or stepped over.

You know you need a Ramadhaan.

I know I need a Ramadhaan.

We know we need a Ramadhaan.

We need to get ourselves together. We have been running around in filth, we have been having our hearts around the low matters; We need our hearts to be around the thrones of Allaah; We need to think about the high matters, high goals; We need to think about Jannah; We need a hope for al-Jannah.

You are planning for marriage, you are planning for education, you are planning for a job, but we need to plan for the Jannah.

We need to prepare for the Jannah during the month of Ramadhaan.

“‘Nahnu be haajathin Ma aasa fir Ramadhaan.”

We are in severe need for Ramadhaan, so that we come into Ramdhaan with repentance, we come into it with regret, we come into it realizing that we are weak, that we need Allaah tabarak wa taala to correct us, realizing that we are wrong and that we need Allaah tabarak wa taala to place upon us that which is right, realizing that we are weak and that we need Allaah tabarak wa taala to grant us strength.

We need a Ramadhaan.

Oh Yes !! We need a Ramadhaan. 

We needs nights of Qiyaam, we need dua and sujood, we need nights of Ramadhaan to do thilawaah of Quraan.

We need a Ramadhaan to listen to the Quraan.

When was the last time that we listened to the Quraan??

When was the last time we recited Quraan?

We need a Ramadhaan to study Quraan, to implement the Quraan, and this RamadhaanMAY BE OUR LAST Ramadhaan.

What is the guarantee that it is not our final Ramadhaan?

We have to come into it seriously. And we want to come out of it much better than we came into it. We want to come out of Ramadhaan with Taqwa, because that was the main reason that it was legislated.

O you who believe fasting has been written upon  you as it was written for those before you, so that you may gain Taqwa.”

Taqwa is fear of Allaah. If we had taqwa, our condition will be better than  it is now.

And we can achieve Taqwa during the month of Ramadhaan. I dont believe that our hearts are that hard, I dont believe that we cant change.

We need a Ramadhaan to be as the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) was.

That he was the most generous, he was generous in general and he was most generous in Ramadhaan. Like a wind … spending, giving to his right, giving to his left, giving in front of him, giving behind him, giving to anyone who came. He gave without them asking. 

We need a Ramadhaan to inculcate these qualities.

We need to control our desires.

We need to control our tongue.

We need to control our limbs.

We need to learn self-discipline.

We need to control our anger.

We must do things in Ramadhaan not out of habit, something that is just tradition., that we are more despicable when we went in.

We have to change our condition. We have to change our connection with Allaah tabarak wa taala.

Any other Ramadhaan do what you will.

But my sincere advice to you is, this Ramadhaan worry about yourself.

Am I backbiting?

Am I slandering?

Am I committing fahishah?

Am I committing gheebah?

Am I committing Nameemah (tale-carrying) ?

Do I have hasad?

Do I have pride (Kibr) ?

Am I arrogant?

Am I too harsh?

Am I unkind?

Am I not gentle enough? Am I gentle enough?

Question yourself. Was my intention when I said what I said or did what I did for the pleasure of Allaah or to be noticed?

When I spoke what I spoke was it for the pleasure of Allaah or to be seen or heard?

Was I doing it “Haarisa min Qalbi— sincerely from my heart

or

I did it to be known? Khutbath Duroor — Loving to be known breaks it. 


If we find that we are not talking to our sisters or brothers too much, we need a Ramadhaan to learn to stop talking to those who are not halaal for us to talk to.

And if we find that we are mixing too much, we need a Ramadhaan  to start mixing with those whom you are not supposed to mix with.

We find that we have jealousy in our hearts, vengeance in our hearts, distrust in our hearts for other Muslims based upon nothing but  Shaitaan whispers to us, we need a Ramadhaan.  


We need a Ramadhaan,

Our condition wont change.

We will continue to complain.

We need a Ramadhaan or we will forever be in pain.

We need a Ramadhaan or we will go insane. 

Why cant we make excuses?

Why cant we forgive?

Why cant we forget?

Why cant we let things go?

Upon clarity, upon Haqq, knowing the Sunnah, knowing the Deen, connected to the scholars, not preceding them in any statement or action and if they make a statement, we make their statement (not add our own), This is important.

We need a Ramadhaan. 

This blessed month where you can go in as the most despicable devil and come out like an angel. That blessed month when you can go in as a miser and come out as the generous … that blessed month where you can be o ne of those hard-hearted brothers – (everybody usually gives you a smile but you dont give anybody a smile) – and if you do it right, you’ll come out of Ramadhaan giving smiles to those brothers , not in the faces of the sisters but the faces of your brothers.. 

We need a Ramadhaan to correct our condition :

we are slow,

we are lazy,

we dont have any incentive towards the deen and the Aakhiraah, the Hereafter .

We need a Ramadhaan to clarify our situation.

We need a Ramadhaan to put us in position.

We need a Ramadhaan to give this Ummah a rebirth, air ..

we have to understand that we are global.

Whoever follows the Book of Allaah, the Sunnah of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) will be with him in the jannah.

And those who are upon ignorance, innovation, not mukaffarah, they are still brothers from a distant but from within this Ummah. So it affects all of us. And we are connected in that way. 

If you sit there saying,

I dont care what they do to the Muslims in India doesnt concern me; I dont care if they bomb Afghanistan up the planet…

I dont care…. it has nothing to do with me …then you are a racist, a nationalist, you are not a muslim.

Because a Muslim concerns himself about this Ummah.

A muslim at night thinks about this Ummah.

A muslim cries in his salaah about the condition of this Ummah, he cries about all locally, he cries about their condition internationally. We need a Ramadhaan so that we  can realize the Islaamic brotherhood again. 

We need a Ramadhaan because some of them never practiced brotherhood ever in their lives and  may have been Muslims 50 years. We need a Ramadhaan so that the sisters learn sisterhood, 

We need a Ramadhaan so that we can focus o n the Aakhirah — Hereafter and we give Naseehah and advice to o ne another that is of benefit and that our talking and our mixing is just not about the Dunya, and what you want to do in the Dunya and how you are gonna be in this Dunya.

We need a Ramadhaan so that people learn to inculcate in their children to be like Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq, Umar al-Khattab, Saad abi Ibn Waqqas and like this.


We need our Qiyaam at night, we need recitation of Quraan, we need to sit together and talk together o nly about the deen, not about the Dunya, we need to worry about our status in the Aakhirah, in the Hereafter. We need to wake up from our sleep. Wake up Oh Sleepy o ne. !! our slumber has been too long. You got to wake up, take wudoo, get within the caravan of Mohamed Ibn Abdullah, Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq, Umar al-Khattab, you have to get with it. How long are we going to stay sick? How long are we going to be unsettled? How long are we going to have our problems?

We need a Ramadhaan.  And let this Ramadhaan be the one where you come out of it better, come out of it committed, come out of it devoted, you come out of it with your head held high.

You are from the Ummah of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) and dont you forget it!!

Walhamdulillaahi rabbil aalameen.


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