Behavior Speaks Louder than Words!

December 27, 2011

Many times we go through our daily routines without much thought, even such acts as wudu and prayer.  Once someone passed on a quote, “keep smiling for you never know who may fall in love with it”.  It reminded me that all of our actions count, not just our smile.  Sometimes the smallest of our actions may leave a lasting print on someone we cross paths with.  I will never forget one of my staff: I was required to do a bi-yearly staff evaluation which consisted of sitting in on a few classes and writing up a form and submitting it.  This surely affected her chances of getting a merit raise or other benefits.  However, due to a heavy schedule I was not always able to sit in on the 11 classes with the frequency that I really should have. When it came time to write up the appraisal, I made a few strict comments about her always keeping to herself and not interacting with her peers and a few other classroom management issues.  When she was requested to sign it she turned the form in with stiff replies to all points and the basis was- how could I effectively evaluate her when I had not attended her class more than twice.

In all fairness, she was right.  I had not spent enough time to be able to give her a full evaluation.  Maybe other supervisors would have been upset or felt threatened by such a response from an employee.  However I knew that she was right and was only asking for fair treatment.  In the subsequent portion of the school year, I gained a new respect for the teacher as she put more effort into rectifying her shortfalls.  At the same time, I made more of an effort to appreciate her work and to notice it.  Because of her courage to stand up for what was right, I learned a valuable lesson in dealing with colleagues.  I started to increase my attention of the teachers’ best efforts, and tried to give them support to overcome weak areas.

A few years later I decided to stop working and focus on my family. During that time, this particular teacher sent me a message out of the blue telling me how much she had appreciated working with me and she listed a few things that I had done that had really had a positive affect upon her as a person.  One of them was noticing people and recognizing their value as an individual.  I never thought about that.  It just seemed a normal thing that we should do for each other, yet she was not the only one to mention this point.  Time and again it was said how much I had influenced a person, changed how they looked at things, encouraged them to go past what they thought was their limit, and how I was able to see the lion hiding within the kitten.

I often think back to that message.  It touched me so deeply and made me realize that often its the little things which we do that have an impact on people, hopefully in a positive way.  We may never know or hear of how we touched someone’s life.  Our behavior or actions may be planted as seeds and take a long time to grow, but we know that the seeds are there.  For this reason we should always think how we represent ourselves, as human beings and as Muslims.  Does our behavior coincide with Islamic teachings? Does our hijab or dress present the real teachings or are we tied up in trying to be modern? Are we shy to convey to others what we believe in?

The following video is short but the point is so clear!  What we do– or DON’T do– may have strong effects upon those who come in contact with us.  Let us be aware and try to improve ourselves so that we  can always promote the best knowledge, behaviors and attitudes.


The Muslim in Ramadan: Building Character

August 12, 2010


source: www.islamqa.com

sujud in salah

Praise be to Allaah.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “The month of Ramadan in which was revealed the Qur’aan, a guidance for mankind and clear proofs for the guidance and the criterion (between right and wrong). So whoever of you sights (the crescent on the first night of) the month (of Ramadan i.e. is present at his home), he must observe Sawm (fasts) that month, and whoever is ill or on a journey, the same number [of days which one did not observe Sawm (fasts) must be made up] from other days. Allaah intends for you ease, and He does not want to make things difficult for you.

(He wants that you) must complete the same number (of days), and that you must magnify Allaah [i.e. to say Takbeer (Allaahu Akbar: Allaah is the Most Great)] for having guided you so that you may be grateful to Him.” [al-Baqarah 2:185]

This blessed month is a great opportunity for goodness, barakah (blessing), worship and obedience towards Allaah. It is a great month, a noble season, a month in which hasanaat (rewards for good deeds) are multiplied and in which committing sayi’aat (bad deeds) is more serious than at other times.

The gates of Paradise are opened and the gates of Hell are shut, and the sinners’ repentance to Allaah is accepted. It is a month whose beginning is mercy, its middle is forgiveness and its end is redemption from the Fire. So give thanks to Him for the season of goodness and blessing that He has bestowed upon you, and for the means of bounty and various kinds of great blessings for which He has singled you out.

Make the most of this blessed time by filling it with acts of worship and forsaking haraam things, so that you may attain a good life in this world and happiness after death. For the sincere believer, every month is an occasion for worship and his whole life is spent in obeying Allaah, but in the month of Ramadaan he has even more motives to do good and his heart is even more focused on worship, and he turns even more to his Lord. By His grace, our generous Lord bestows His bounty upon the fasting believers and multiplies the reward for them on this blessed occasion, so He gives abundantly and rewards generously for righteous deeds. Time passes quickly Days pass so quickly, as if they were mere moments.

We welcomed Ramadaan, then we bade it farewell, and only a short period of time passed and we are welcoming Ramadaan again. So we should hasten to do good deeds in this month and strive to fill it with that which Allaah is pleased with and with that which will help us on the Day when we meet Him. How can we prepare for Ramadaan? We can prepare for Ramadaan by taking stock of ourselves and recognizing our shortcomings in living up to the Shahaadatayn, or our shortcoming in fulfilling our duties, or our shortcomings in not keeping away from the desires and doubts that we may have fallen into… We should set ourselves straight so that in Ramadaan we will have a higher degree of faith. For faith increases and decreases. It increases through obedience to Allaah and it decreases through disobedience and sin. Read the rest of this entry »


What are Dolls Teaching our Girls??

August 30, 2008

Saturday, February 16, 2008

From: http://hijabifashionista.blogspot.com/2008_02_01_archive.html

Is this what we want our girls to really be playing with and immitating?

Is it just me, or are dolls getting dirtier and dirtier?(to say it nicely) IF I dressed like this, well, ASTAGHFIRRALLAH! You can’t even tell if these dolls are smiling or not because their mouths already take up half their faces! They’re supposed to be like, what? 12? 17? 40? Their everyday clothing looks like they’re about to go clubbing or something astaghfirruallah. SoOOO do you really want your children, cousins or siblings to be playing with these dolls?

Even the “Bratz Baby” doll – (the one that’s supposed to be younger) wears like, Lingerie!

And just to note, a real human being cannot grow that much hair in like their first 5 years of life!?!?!?!?!?!

So what’s the difference between the dolls above, and the muslim dolls in the shelf? Are the muslim dolls created a real necessity? I think so! Not only are they good role models for young muslim girls, but we hijabifashionistas could learn a thing or two from this new “genre” of plastic toys .. the muslim barbie. ! Instead of boring you with all the info from the inventors of these dolls, I’ll just summarize it – basically they were created by muslim woman and men who saw some kids (be it their own or just some random kids) playing with normal Barbie dolls, and decided they didn’t convey Islamic dress codes and were bad influences on their daughters. SOOOO here they are! Take note of what they’re wearing and haavee fun with this little blast from our past.. I wish they were around when I was little!

Let’s start off with the following; Dara and Sara – the Iranian dolls

I read this article at: www.islamfortoday.com/iran02.htm and…
They called these two dolls, “Irans answer to Ken and Barbie” I’m just hoping these two aren’t dating because although they may look arab, I don’t think they’re following muslim valuuuuueees..

I have to admit these two are cute, but I do think the toy seller ‘Ms. Rahimi’ is a little too welcoming of this doll when she says; “I think every Barbie doll is more harmful than an American missile,”

Umm.. I don’t know about that.. but atleast we know for sure that ‘Ms.Rahimi’ thinks that Ken and Barbie are complete corruptors of muslim childrens’ minds.
I’m not too sure about that however, I mean, I grew up playing with Ken and Barbie and alhamdulilah I’m alright. What do you think about this? Are Barbie and Ken real threats to muslim children.

NOW ADMIRE THE FASHION! heehe

Aww.. is that the muslim Ken? There should be a muslim doll bachelor contest! hahhaaa

I think this one is sooo pretty! Kind of reminds me of the Red Outfit I created! With the red hijab, tunic, pumps and white pants! And I saw this picture AFTER I created the outfit! Talk about coincidental. ANNND talk about how you really CAN use a barbie doll to plan an outfit. Make sure it’s a muslim barbie doll and not a bratz doll however, or you might just be asked, “how much?” OKOK i’m sorry !! apology for that unnecessary comment but yeah. Seriously.

 

 

This one is adorable too! I am loving the way the hijab is wrapped!! Notice how the hijab is just one of the minor colors in the top? Just like in the very first outfit I created!

HIJABIFASHIONISTA TIP #4:

Keep your hijab a solid color if the top you are wearing is printed. You can wear a printed hijab however, if the top is solid!

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COol! A hijabifashionista tip inspired by a doll!

 

It looks like an indonisian bride! what else do you expect from an indonesian based doll? How gorgeous! except it has caucasian features.. hmmm (Just accept it..)

This PIcture>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Maybe a hijabi nurse could wear it? HAHAAA

Is it weird that I am in love with these outfits? No. Because they’re cute!

Alright, aside from the top (which is oddly shaped) I like this outfit! I really love this hijab style!
A closer look at how they tie these hijabs… I lovelovelove it!
All these hijabi dolls (the ones above) are from the “Arrosa” doll collection. As I mentioned, it was started by an indonesian mother wasn’t pleased with the clothing the dolls her daughter played with were wearing – AND SHE DID SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Masha allah! We can all learn something from her!
OUR NEXTTT DOLLS:
Fulla Dolls!

Fulla dolls are also one of my favorite dolls! Why? I read this one article about the Fulla label and it said that there was definatly no Ken in the picture, but the only male characters are a future over-protecting older brother and teacher. I mean, THERE’S GOING TO BE A LOVING OLDER BROTHER!? How cute is that?

OHhhh! This one is sure to be fashionable in the house, but she comes with an abaya for when she goes out! This cccccracks me up! But I love it!

I know my tone was somewhat sarcastic, and I don’t mean to be harsh at all – I really do love the dolls. Actually, last time I was in Oman, I picked up some fulla pillowcases! Hehe and I love them!

In the article by Mary Fitzgerald writes; “There is “Outdoor” Fulla with a gold-trimmed black abaya decorated with a flower print. Meanwhile, “Indoor” Fulla comes dressed in a funky gold lurex top and hip-hugging jeans”
More Muslim dolls:

How gorgeous is this doll? I wish it were around when I was little! … I want one now though…

Well, time to wrap this up… Not only because this is all my muslim doll research but also because i’ve been told I should “get off the laptop already!”
I’m sure you learned something- whether it be more about muslim fashion or just that muslim dolls exist, i’m glad I could help!
P.S. Please leave comments so that I know you’re reading!

please see more at:  http://hijabifashionista.blogspot.com/2008_02_01_archive.html


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