This is a combination of lectures regarding women in Islam. They are very informational and motivational.. I hope you like it. A nice reminder is that Islam elevates the status of women through the hadith in which a companion came to the prophet pbuh asking: Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, reported: A person came to Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) and said: Who among the people is most deserving my companionship (of a kind treatment from me?) He said: Your mother. He, again, said: Then who (is the next one)? He said: It is your mother (who deserves the best treatment from you). He said: Then who (is the next one)? He (the Holy Prophet) said: It is your mother. He (again) said: Then who? Thereupon he (The Prophet (peace be upon him)) said: It is your father.
Recently the trend of wearing hijab has increased. Many will think this is a great thing. However, looking at the interpretations of how hijab can be worn often leaves room for debate and heated discussion as well as disappointment that the meaning of hijab is being lost in this new fashion show.
As a sample, the photo below shows a type of hijab which is very colorful, has added decorations, does not cover the sides of the face, and the woman had matching loud eye shadow and lipstick. Sadly to say, such hijab is not within the definition of the requirements of hijab. The other photo does not cover the hairline properly and is folded in such a way which shows the neck and jaw line which falls under the definition of the verse below; juyubihinna refers to the “neck slit” of a dress, so that if this is covered it will also cover the neck and bosom.
If we go to the verse in the Quran, Allah has specifically stated that the beauty of the women which is allowed to show is that which appears naturally, in otherwords any shape which may show due to the wind blowing her outer garment against her, or for those who allow the face to appear, the natural skin tone without make up or jewelry.
The hijab is an act of obedience to Allah and to his prophet (pbuh), Allah says in the Qur’an: `It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His messenger have decreed a matter that they should have an option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, has indeed strayed in a plain error.’ (S33:36).
Allah also said: ‘And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc) and not to show off their adornment except what must (ordinarily) appear thereof, that they should draw their veils over their Juyubihinna.’(S24:31).
Although it is a normal process for those who recently don wearing hijab to start with baby steps and make continuous adjustments as their comfort and iman grow, it is vital that we educate our brothers and sisters about what hijab really means. Briefly, hijab should meet these criteria:
- Complete Body should be covered. -Except the hands and face. Some scholars believe that the face and hands should be covered. i.e the niqab.
- The chest should be covered. You can find the evidence on Surah Noor (24) Verse 31. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms
- The clothes should not be see through or transparent.
- Clothes should not resemble the unbelievers, for example other religious artifacts.
- The clothes should not be too tight that it reveals the figure. The clothes should be “roomy” It should not describe your body figure.
- Do not add perfume to your Hijab or clothing. There is actually a Hadith on perfume: Allah’s Messenger (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: Every eye is lustful and when a woman applies perfume and then goes about in an assembly, she is like such and such, i.e. an adulteress. (Mishkat Hadith1065)
- Hijab should not attract attention, display, or fame. It should not be an adornment itself.
- Should not be so glamorous that attracts the opposite sex.
- A Muslimahs’ clothing, dress should not resemble the clothing of men. ie. the opposite sex. (This also goes for men, they should not imitate women’s dress).
List is from Muslima Matters
by Asma bint Shameem [iloveAllaah.com Exclusive Writer]
What if you hire someone to do something for you, but they only do part of the job and leave the rest incomplete? Will you recompense them fully for a job completed?
And what do you think a teacher would say if a student turns in only some of his homework and fails to do the rest of it? Will he get full marks for it?
And what about a child who is supposed to clean his whole room, but he only cleans HALF of it? Do you think he did what was required of him? Would you reward him for a job well done?
The answer to all of the above is an obvious NO.
That’s because they did not complete what they were supposed to do and only did part of it. And thus they do not deserve to be fully rewarded.
Similarly, my dear sister, is the case when you fast but you don’t wear hijaab.
Do you realize, dear sister, that by not wearing hijaab, you are only doing part of the job and not doing whole of it?
You see, just as much as fasting is a fard (obligation) on you, in like manner, the hijab is also, just as equally, fard on you.
The One Who made the FAST an obligation on you and me is the same Lord Who also made the HIJAAB an obligation on you and me.
Allaah says: “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. over themselves) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women, or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigor, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful” [al-Noor 24:31]
And there are so many other ayaat and ahaadeeth that clearly order believing women to cover themselves.
Do you not want to be one of them?
Don’t you want to obey the One who created you, gave you life, food, health, family, friends and everything that you know and don’t know of ??!! Read the rest of this entry »
Some things are, like they say, one step forward and two steps back. But, as guest writer Bisma shares, with pure intentions and persistence, and help from Allah ta’ala, it’s possible to come out ahead.
My hijab story is like a secret diary no one should ever read. It is filled with horrible facts about me and points to my mistakes and weaknesses. My journey to hijab is filled with fear, negativity and regret. So I warn you: read with caution.
The most important thing you should know is that I used to wear hijab, but eventually took it off. I hate saying it, admitting to the world that I was one of those ignorant girls who went backwards after putting on the hijab, instead of moving forward with my deen. But it’s what I did and I can’t change that.
I first put on the hijab due to an extreme iman rush after an Islamic conference and pressure I felt from my community members, because, masha’Allah, almost all the girls I knew already wore hijab and were so religious. I always felt like an outcast not wearing it, so I decided to just do it.
After putting on the scarf, however, I was extremely self-cautious. I would feel fine wearing it when I was around my religious friends; but, when I was with other “normal” people, I was ashamed. I tried to cover while still blending in: wearing hoods and hats to cover my hair, instead of proper hijab. I didn’t understand that “hijab” was true modesty, not only in dress, but in actions as well. I treated the hijab simply as a cloth on my head.
During that period, I regretted the day I decided to wear the hijab and every bone in my body screamed at me to take it off, but I was afraid of what people would think of me. So I continued my self-loathing and wore the scarf. I felt horrible because I knew I wasn’t getting reward from Allah ta’ala. After all, I only kept on my hijab from fear of people’s judgment, rather than fulfilling the command of my Lord.
The regret continued and became stronger each day. I woke up miserable, knowing I had to put on my hijab. I hated going out, especially with my husband, because I felt that every other girl looked beautiful to him except me. His consolation only made it worse. I didn’t believe him when he said I looked beautiful, because I felt ugly, inside and out. I was always irritated and fighting with everyone around me. Read the rest of this entry »
by Niqab: The Face Veil on Tuesday, August 24, 2010 at 10:25am
Why are women choosing to wear the niqab?
Increasing numbers of British Muslim women are choosing to wear the face veil. Two of those women explain to Newsnight why they adopted the niqab when their mothers did not.
Rumaysa, aged 27
(To take the niqab off would be stripping me of my identity as a woman and stripping me of my beliefs – and for me personally, I am nothing without my beliefs)
I started wearing the niqab about eight years ago and I started wearing it in the first year of university – and my decision to wear it was to help me in my religion as an act of worship. It helps me and protects me. I feel [it] empowers me, and it helps me to realise and get closer to achieving my aim, which is to please my creator.
It empowers me because when I talk I believe I have a voice, I have an opinion, I’m my own person – my own personality comes across, and when people talk to me, they don’t… think ‘she’s looking like this, she’s looking like that,’ so my voice comes across and people are judging me for who I am, rather than what I look like.
Why did the earlier generations like our parents, their parents, when they came here, why did they not wear the niqab? Their purpose was to earn a better livelihood, make money and give a better life to their children. Their aim was to come here, work, fit in with the society. And we are saying hang on, we are born here, we are part of the society. I see myself as British.
Twenty years ago, fair enough, the niqab would have been virtually non-existent. You’ve got to bear in mind it’s their choice to wear it, and as a democratic country, can we really dictate to people how they should dress?
I get mixed reactions from people. There are people who are understanding, who are educated, and if they approach you and they really want to understand why you wear the niqab and you explain it to them, they are absolutely fine with it. They understand that a face is not an essential component of communication.
And you get other people who, no matter what, they are ignorant or they are just plain racist and do not want to understand. Why should I compromise my religious beliefs to please other people, when it’s not harming them in any way whatsoever?
Of course it upsets me that this intolerance is going on, but it doesn’t make me think I want to take it off, because then I’m not being true to myself. To take the niqab off would be stripping me of my identity as a woman and stripping me of my beliefs – and for me personally, I am nothing without my beliefs.
I believe I integrate fully into British society. I go to work and the people I work with – the majority of them are non-Muslims – and they’ve been absolutely fine with me, I’ve been fine with them. They haven’t had a problem in terms of me communicating. They’ve never seen the niqab as a barrier, and they see me for who I am and they see beyond the niqab.
BELOW IS A CUTE STORY OF A YOUNG GIRL WHO CHOSE TO WEAR THE SCARF OR HIJAB AS IT IS CALLED IN ARABIC. MANY TIMES PEOPLE FEEL THAT WE ARE FORCED INTO WEARING THE SCARF YET THE MAJORITY ARE CHOOSING TO WEAR IT. PLEASE READ THIS CUTE STORY WHICH WAS POSTED ON OPRAH.COM
Nine years ago, I danced my newborn daughter around my North Carolina living room to the music of Free to Be…You and Me, the ’70s children’s classic whose every lyric about tolerance and gender equality I had memorized as a girl growing up in California. My Libyan-born husband, Ismail, sat with her for hours on our screened porch, swaying back and forth on a creaky metal rocker and singing old Arabic folk songs, and took her to a Muslim sheikh who chanted a prayer for long life into her tiny, velvety ear. She had espresso eyes and lush black lashes like her father’s, and her milky-brown skin darkened quickly in the summer sun. We named her Aliya, which means “exalted” in Arabic, and agreed we would raise her to choose what she identified with most from our dramatically different backgrounds.
I secretly felt smug about this agreement—confident that she would favor my comfortable American lifestyle over his modest Muslim upbringing. Ismail’s parents live in a squat stone house down a winding dirt alley outside Tripoli. Its walls are bare except for passages from the Qur’an engraved onto wood, its floors empty but for thin cushions that double as bedding at night. My parents live in a sprawling home in Santa Fe with a three-car garage, hundreds of channels on the flat-screen TV, organic food in the refrigerator, and a closetful of toys for the grandchildren. I imagined Aliya embracing shopping trips to Whole Foods and the stack of presents under the Christmas tree, while still fully appreciating the melodic sound of Arabic, the honey-soaked baklava Ismail makes from scratch, the intricate henna tattoos her aunt drew on her feet when we visited Libya. Not once did I imagine her falling for the head covering worn by Muslim girls as an expression of modesty.
Last summer we were celebrating the end of Ramadan with our Muslim community at a festival in the parking lot behind our local mosque. Children bounced in inflatable fun houses while their parents sat beneath a plastic tarp nearby, shooing flies from plates of curried chicken, golden rice, and baklava.
Aliya and I wandered past rows of vendors selling prayer mats, henna tattoos, and Muslim clothing. When we reached a table displaying head coverings, Aliya turned to me and pleaded, “Please, Mom—can I have one?”
She riffled through neatly folded stacks of headscarves while the vendor, an African-American woman shrouded in black, beamed at her. I had recently seen Aliya cast admiring glances at Muslim girls her age. I quietly pitied them, covered in floor-length skirts and long sleeves on even the hottest summer days, as my best childhood memories were of my skin laid bare to the sun: feeling the grass between my toes as I ran through the sprinkler on my front lawn; wading into an icy river in Idaho, my shorts hitched up my thighs, to catch my first rainbow trout; surfing a rolling emerald wave off the coast of Hawaii. But Aliya envied these girls and had asked me to buy her clothes like theirs. And now a headscarf.
In the past, my excuse was that they were hard to find at our local mall, but here she was, offering to spend ten dollars from her own allowance to buy the forest green rayon one she clutched in her hand. I started to shake my head emphatically “no,” but caught myself, remembering my commitment to Ismail. So I gritted my teeth and bought it, assuming it would soon be forgotten.
That afternoon, as I was leaving for the grocery store, Aliya called out from her room that she wanted to come.
A moment later she appeared at the top of the stairs—or more accurately, half of her did. From the waist down, she was my daughter: sneakers, bright socks, jeans a little threadbare at the knees. But from the waist up, this girl was a stranger. Her bright, round face was suspended in a tent of dark cloth like a moon in a starless sky………..
“Are you going to wear that?” I asked.
“Yeah,” she said slowly, in that tone she had recently begun to use with me when I state the obvious.
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