Story of an old Bedouin

December 26, 2010

arab man in the desertWhen passing through a mountain pass, a bedouin once came across an old man who was blind and who seemed to be afflicted with various ailments all over his body. It was clear that he was wasting away. He was even paralyzed and was constantly forced to remain in a seated position. The Bedouin could clearly hear him say, “All praise is for Allah, Who has kept me safe from ailments with which He has tesed many among His creation; and He has indeed preferred me over many among those that He created.”

“My brother!” exclaimed the bedouin. “What have you been saved from? By Allah, I think that you have been afflicted with every single kind of ailment!”

“Go away from me,” said the old man, as he raised his head. “Do I not still have a tongue with which I can pronounce His Oneness, and with which I can remember Him every single moment? And do I not still have a heart with which I can know Him?”

These words of the old man were enough for the bedouin to repent to Allah for his sins and ask Him for forgiveness.

 


A New Year Gained or a New Year Lost ?

December 25, 2010

By Asma bint Shameem

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Before we knew it, last year passed by like a flash and the new year is here…whether it is 2011 CE or 1432 of the Hijri Calendar.

For some people, the beginning of the new year is marked by excited countdowns, popping of firecrackers, partying till the wee hours of the morning and dancing.

And for some, it is a time for somber thoughtfulness and self accountability.

Instead of celebrating, they are worried and scared.

Instead of partying, they think and reflect.

Their hearts tremble and their skins shiver.

Because each year that passes means a year LESS from their lifetime…..

Each year that passes by is bringing them closer to their death….

Because, they know that with each passing year….each passing month….each passing day…..and each passing second…they are that much closer to that inevitable event when they meet their end,

that much closer to their meeting with their Lord, when they will have to stand in front of Him and answer regarding all that they did.

They are aware that whatever time has passed will never come back.

They know that if they did not make the most of their time, and if they did not use their time wisely, in the obedience of Allaah, then surely, they are the losers.  That is because, the Prophet (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam) said:

“On the Day of Resurrection the feet of the son of Adam (man) will not move till he is questioned about four things: how he spent his lifetime, how he spent his youth, from where he acquired his wealth and how he spent it, and what he did with his nowledge.” (Tirmidhi).

 

 

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So they take account of themselves and their deeds at the end of a year….and at the end of a month…..and at the end of a day. They are not heedless of the passage of time or day. They are conscious of every second of their lives and how important it is to spend it usefully.

 

You see, your life is like the pages of a calendar. As the months go by, you flip its pages, never to flip the pages back. Those months that have passed will never come back.  Similarly, as the days and weeks and months of your life go by, they too, will never come back.

 

What is gone, is gone.

That is why the righteous Salaf were so careful about their time and how they spent it. They made sure that no time, however short it was, passed without doing something useful, like acquiring useful knowledge, doing good deeds, helping others, or advising the Ummah.

Describing the Salafs care for time, Hasan al-Basri said: “I saw those people and how they were more careful about their time than about their Dirhams and Dinars (meaning, their money).

Regarding Imaam Hammad ibn Salamah, someone said: “It is unbelievable! I have never seen Hammad laugh at all. He was always busy explaining hadeeth, praying, reading or praising the Lord. This is how he spent his day.” And:” If you were to tell Hammad, You are going to die tomorrow’, there would be nothing he could add to what he is already doing.”

Subhaan Allaah! What consciousness of the value of time!

Ibn al-Qayyim says: “The year is like a tree, months are its branches, days are the branch sticks, hours are its leaves, and the breaths are its fruits. Therefore, if one’s breaths are in obedience [to Allah and His Messenger], the fruits of his tree are good. If they are in disobedience, his fruits are bitter. The harvest is on the Appointed Day, when one’s fruits are found out to be either good or bitter.”

The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam) said:

“Make the most of five things before five others: life before death, health before sickness, free time before becoming busy, youth before old age, and wealth before poverty.” (Saheeh al-Jaami’). This Hadeeth, like so many other ahaadeeth of the Prophet (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam), is brief, yet it is so comprehensive and loaded with meaning. Not only does it point out the value of time, but it also points out the importance of its proper utilization during our youth, and health. It urges us to take the initiative, and not to delay good deeds.

The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam) also said:

“Lose no time to do good deeds before you are caught up by one of seven calamities awaiting you: a starvation which may impair your wisdom; a prosperity which may mislead you; an ailment which may damage your health; an old age which may harm your senses; a sudden death; the Dajjal; or Doomsday, which is indeed the hardest and most bitter.” [at-Tirmidhi]

In fact, we see that the Sahaabah were not only careful about wasting their time; rather they would compete with one another in good deeds.

The noble and commendable competitions that occurred between Abu Bakr and Umar is well-known to all.

“Umar saw that as an opportunity to outstrip Abu Bakr and he said: Today, I am going to surpass Abu Bakr.

He said: So I came with half of my property.

The Messenger of Allaah asked: What have you left for your family? I answered: As much as this.

Then Abu Bakr came with all that he has and the Messenger of Allaah said: What have you left for your family?

He replied: I left for them Allaah and his Messenger.

It is then that I said: I shall never compete with him on anything again.” (At-Tirmidhee).

And Allaah says: “So race in goodness.” (Surah Baqarah: 148)

Some Ulamaa while commenting on the above verse said: “Whoever beats others to the righteous deeds in this world will be the foremost on the Last Day and the foremost people are the highest in position.”

Dear brothers and sisters, mans life is not free from impediments, obstacles and calamities, which can prevent him from accomplishing what could have been done earlier. Wise are those who grab available opportunities before being handicapped by obstacles.

Let us leave those people moving aimlessly in their fake pleasures and ponder over a better and sublime competition……. a competition that is encouraged by the Glorious Quraan.  It is a race towards the Pleasure of Allaah and the Paradise….a competition in the field of righteous deeds.

It is a competition in which the participants are wise people who are aware that this live is short hence they compete with one another in investing their lives in acts of obedience to Allaah.

“Therefore, race for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Garden as wide as heaven and earth, prepared for those who believe in Allah and His Messengers. Such is the Favor of Allah; He gives it to whom He will. Allah is the Owner of great favor.”

(Surah Hadeed: 21)


LIFE IS MISERABLE: HOW CAN I MAKE IT?

November 27, 2010
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Potatoes , Eggs . . and Coffee beans

by I am trying to be a good Muslim on Saturday, November 27, 2010 at 7:33am

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it.

She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen . . He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire.

Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot and ground coffee beans in the third pot. He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing !

After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl , He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl , He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup.

 

Turning to her, he asked: “Daughter, what do you see?” “

Potatoes, eggs and coffee,” she hastily replied.

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Feeling Fed Up From Life

September 15, 2010

Psychological Counselling:  Dealing with hardships

http://www.islam-qa.com/en/cat/31/ref/islamqa/41703

There are many reasons for hating this world. There are some people who dislike this transient world and long for that which is with Allaah of reward, and who love to meet Allaah. Hence some of the salaf said: “The gift of the believer is death.” For he detests this world and his heart is attached to the Hereafter. Yet despite his dislike for this world, he carries out his duties towards Allaah and His slaves, and he strives to do good as much as he can, in accordance with the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):

“And worship your Lord until there comes unto you the certainty (i.e. death)”

[al-Hijr 15:99]

And there are some people who detest this world, not because of the Hereafter, but because they think that their share of it is very little, and that others are better off then them. Undoubtedly this is a kind of discontent with the will and decree of Allaah, for Allaah is the One Who bestows blessings and distributes provisions, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And if Allaah were to enlarge the provision for His slaves, they would surely rebel in the earth, but He sends down by measure as He wills. Verily, He is, in respect of His slaves, the Well‑Aware, the All‑Seer (of things that benefit them)”

[al-Shoora 42:27]

Some people hate this world because they have been faced with a great deal of trial, stress and exhaustion in it. Undoubtedly these people do not understand the true nature of this world. This world is the realm of striving and trial, the realm of stress and exhaustion, especially for the righteous believer, who encounters all kinds of trials by means of which Allaah expiates his sins and raises him in status.

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Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Verily, We have created man in toil”

[al-Balad 90:4]

“Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: ‘We believe, and will not be tested. And We indeed tested those who were before them. And Allaah will certainly make (it) known (the truth of) those who are true, and will certainly make (it) known (the falsehood of) those who are liars, (although Allaah knows all that before putting them to test)”

[al-Ankaboot 29:2-3]

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Time, Love, Praise and Encouragement in Relationships

August 29, 2010

THIS HAS GOT TO BE THE BEST VIDEO I HAVE SEEN IN SUCH A LONG TIME AND REALLY ITS SO NECESSARY FOR EVERYONE TO LISTEN TO HIS ADVICE IN ALL SECTORS OF LIFE.   WHAT A GREAT GUY.   “YOUR SPOUSE IS A GIFT TO YOU.” “YOUR PARENTS ARE A GIFT TO YOU.”  WE HAVE CHOICES WE CAN MAKE TO IMPROVE OUR LIFE– LETS DO IT!!!  THE SMALL THINGS ADD UP TO BE HUGE THINGS.

oriana   I REST MY CASE I HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND ALL WHAT HAS BEEN SAID IN THIS VIDEO.  I do appreciate your comments…


WHEN WILL WE EVER RELAX??

August 28, 2010

A good pick me up and reminder I’m sure you will agree!

A story of one of the great imams of this Ummah, Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal.

His son, Abdullah, once asked his father one day, “Abi when will we ever relax?” His father, one of the greatest revivers of the Sunnah, a role model for all Muslims, looked him in the eye and said, “With the first step we take into Jannah.”

Ya Allah, what a beautiful response!

There are days that come to you and you are tired, and you just want to sleep and relax and “shut off” as they say. Those are the days that you need to ask yourself, a critical question: Where am I going with life? If it’s towards Allah and for Allah, then regain your strength and continue your work, for Jannah is precious and must be sought. But if you look into your life and realise that it’s not towards Allah, but it is towards Dunya, then here tiredness becomes a blessing, for it is a reminder that you need to change direction.

I love the story on many levels. For one, it shows you that when someone’s focus is Jannah, their priorties change, and their outlook on life is different. What we perceive as difficulty, they perceive as ease. What we perceive as calamity, they perceive as reward. What we perceive as obstacles, they perceive as opportunities for sincere dua. Moreover, when your focus is Jannah. This dunya and its constant demand becomes small and the least of our concern.

Also, I love the way the son phrased his question, “Abi” sweet way of calling your father, and “when will we ever relax?” he didn’t say, “when will I relax dad?”. He wasn’t selfish, he wanted to relax, but also cared for his father’s condition. This also shows you how the father and son were working hard together. Again, when your focus is Jannah it reflects in your family, children, and those around you and everyone gears up towards that goal.

Our problem today is not that we’re tired, our problem today is that we relax too much. We do everything so that we relax. We cheat, break promises, not fulfill vows, lie, take and give bribery..so we can relax. We don’t stay up for tahajjud or wake up for fajr, we don’t fast, or go for Hajj and Umrah…so we can relax. We don’t walk towards the Masjid, open the book of Allah so we can understand it, all in the name “I need to relax!”

Brothers/sisters, there’s plenty of relaxation where we’re going, but this is not the time for it. Let’s all work for Jannah and be productive in the path of Allah, and work so hard that one day our children would come to us and ask us “Abi”..or “Ummi”..”when will we ever relax?” and you can smile and look them into the eyes and say “When we enter Jannah inshaAllah”.

Link: http://www.productivemuslim.com/journal/2009/6/6/abi-when-will-we-ever-relax.html


What is Patience?

April 16, 2010

The Concept Of Sabr (Patience) in Islam ::::patience and gratitude

ALLAH Says: “Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning.” (39:10)

Ibn al-Qayyim (d.750H) says: “And know that sabr (patient perseverance) is of three kinds: [i] sabr whilst (fulfilling) the orders of Allâh, [ii] sabr whilst (abandoning and keeping away) from the prohibitions of Allâh, and [iii] sabr with the Decree of Allâh with respect to afflictions and difficulties.”

Hardships and ease are a trial for us. Everything Allah chooses for you; from good or evil, is for your benefit. Whatever occurred to you could not have missed you and what missed you could never have reached you. Rewards are only for those who are patient with the Decree of Allah.

Panic and impatience cannot prevent Allah’s Decree. Shakwah (complaining) is contradictory to Sabr (patience). Allah alone can protect you from harm and ease your difficulties. Sabr is obligatory!

If the affliction results from acts of obedience to Allah, such as injury on the battlefield, losing money during Hijrah(migrating for the sake of Allah), losing a job because of accepting Islam or because one attempts to follow the Sunnah of Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) like growing the beard, wearing the lower garment above the ankles, etc, then the affliction is a trial. Whoever bears it with patience will be rewarded and whoever exhibits annoyance may invoke the wrath of Allah upon himself.

If the affliction befalls due to sinful actions, such as illnesses caused by smoking, drinking, or using drugs etc, then the affliction is a punishment from Allah. Hasten to avoid all sinful acts and turn towards Allah in repentance and ask his forgiveness. Otherwise, know that the punishments of the Hereafter are far more severe and unbearable.

If the affliction is neither connected to a good deed nor a sin, such as other kinds of disease and sickness, losing a child, or failing in business, then you should evaluate your actions. If you are involved in some kind of disobedience to Allah then the affliction is a punishment for you and a reminder to leave your evil deeds. Otherwise, Allah has caused this affliction to test your patience. The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: “One amongst the inhabitants of Hell, who had lived a life of ease and pleasure in the world, would be made to dip in the Hell Fire only once on the Day of Resurrection. Then he would be asked: ‘O son of Adam, Did you find any comfort. Did you get any blessing?’ He would say: ‘By Allah, no, my Lord!’ Then a person, from the inhabitants of Paradise, who had led the most miserable life (in the world), would be made to dip once in Paradise and it would be said to him: ‘O son of Adam, did you face any hardship or experience any distress?’ he would say: ‘By Allah! No never have I experienced any hardship or distress’.” (Saheeh Muslim, No. 6738)


Islam and Sexual Repression

January 18, 2010

The real meaning of repression

Western psychologists accuse religion of repressing the vital energy of man and rendering his life quite miserable as a result of the sense of guilt which especially obsesses the religious people and makes them imagine that all their actions are sinful and can only be expiated through abstention from enjoying the pleasures of life. Those psychologists add that Europe lived in the darkness of ignorance as long as it adhered to its religion but once it freed itself from the fetters of religion, its emotions were liberated and accord ingly it achieved wonders in the field of production.

Such psychologists often say: Do you want us to return to religion? Do you want to fetter the emotions which, we the pro­gressives, have set free? Do you want to embitter the lives of the youth by incessantly reminding them of what is right and wrong?

Let the Europeans say whatever they like about their religion. Whether we believe it or not makes little difference at present because we are not concerned with religion in general: we are discussing Islam.

Before discussing whether or not Islam represses the vital energy we should define the meaning of repression which has been mis understood and misapplied by both the “cultured” and the half- educated.

Repression is not the result of abstention from performing the instinctive act. It is the result of believing that the instinctive act is dirty, and of refusing to admit to oneself that such a motive may come to one’s mind or engage one’s thinking. In this sense repression becomes an unconscious feeling which may not be cured by performing the instinctive act. He who performs the instinctive act but believes that he is committing a degrading and dirty act is a person who suffers from repression, though he may commit such an act twenty times a day. Every time he commits such an act, there shall ensue a conflict within his psyche between what he has done and what he ought to have done. It is this conscious and unconscious conflict which gives birth to complexes and psychological disorders. Read the rest of this entry »


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