February 6, 2009
Dear Sister, my daughter also went through similar feelings because she tried it before she was required to wear it, there fore I let her remove it with her understanding that when it was a required thing to do at puberty, I hoped she would accept to wear it for her own self and not for pleasing me. Hijab is for yourself, for your dignity and modesty and for the pleasure of Allah swt. NOW, will you go to hell for it? We are not in any position to say no— or yes!!! This is only the right of Allah swt and those who presume to know will place themselves equal to His majesty. Should you lie to your mom? NO…. you need to sit down with her and ask her for help, for strength,,, and look into the reasons why it bothers you to wear it. Is it because of social pressure to take it off and fit in with ‘your friends’??? Know truely dearest sister, that true friends will love you no matter what you wear or how you look, and that is one of the purposes of hijab. People need to see you for who YOU are not —-what you dress in.
Some women who do not wear hijab do so because they think that iman or faith is enough, but we need to follow and submitt to what Allah has requested of us. So yes hijab is a fard, or an obligation on us.. But it is also our crown that we should wear with pride and dignity. Putting the hijab was a hard thing for me to do when I was 20,,, and I thought seriously of all I would give up or change in my life.. but when I put it I knew it was a great choice. You have to choose it for yourself in order to please Allah, and when you choose to do so is in your hands, but don’t lie about it because you will also be lieing to yourself first of all. Even if your mom doesnt see you — surely Allah does. He knows what is in your heart more than anyone can and he understands well your struggles and feelings. so trust in Allah and in His mercy and if you decide that now is not your time then you must make intention that soon you will return to wearing it for His pleasure and your blessings. May Allah swt guide you to the right choice and help you to over come these difficult feelings. Lastly, let me just mention- as maybe I have in one of my articles here, that choosing the right kind of scarf is important!!! I have high school girls on our bus who wrap and wrap and wrap the material around their head and neck. I look at them and wonder uffff how annoying —how can she stand it like that—- it would suffocate me and make me feel irritable. My daughter wears the two piece which I also dont like because it feels tight, and short… Sooo I chose the square hijab that you fold in half as a triangle and then pin under the chin. I use a comfy head band to hold the hijab in place so it doesnt slip around and bother me all day. Play around with different kinds and see what makes you feel comfy and pretty and great knowing you are doing a good thing for yourself. I pray that Allah will make it easy for you and give you the strength you need, and you will find out for yourself why you will want wear it!!
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In a store today, a little old lady with a big shopping cart was making her wait through a very narrow aisle, so I stepped aside as she walked by. Instead, she stopped dead in her tracks..
Little Old Lady (staring at me up and down and very amused): Oh! Hello there!
Me (caught off guard): Um, hello.
Little Old Lady: Where are you from!
Me:Um, here.
Little Old Lady: Oh wow, and you dress like that? (referring to my niqaab ensemble). Is that your custom?
Me: It’s part of my religion, I’m a Muslim.
Little Old Lady: Oh, how sweet. Do you beleive in Jesus?
Me: Yes, I do. I beleive he’s a Prophet of God.
Little Old Lady: Oh yes, and he’s our savior.
Me: Well…God is my savior.
The End : )
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February 6, 2009
Asking Allaah by the virtue of So and so
It is not permissible to ask Allaah by the virtue of anyone, not even by the virtue of the Prophets or Messengers or awliyaa or righteous people and NOT even by virtue of Prophet Muhammed (pbuh).
No one can compel Allaah to do anything. It is NOT permissible to ask Him in any way except by His Names and Attributes, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And (all) the Most Beautiful Names belong to Allaah, so call on Him by them”
[al-A’raaf 7:180].
With regard to saying to the occupant of a grave, “O So and so, help me,” this is obviously shirk, because it is a supplication to someone other than Allaah.
Asking by the virtue of someone is a means to shirk, and calling upon a created being is shirk in worship.
And Allaah knows best.
(islam-qa)
These behaviors are dangerous and relying upon anyone other than Allah swt is innovation. Many people give the misnomer of Mohammedians to Muslims with the idea that we worship the Prophet, pbuh. However the Quran is full of comands from Allah to not worship any one except HIM and that no one is of any avail except HIM.
Worship none but Allah. I fear for you the punishment of a painful day.’ (Qur’an, 11:26)
Say: ‘Do you worship, besides Allah, something which has no power to harm or help you when Allah is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing?’ (Qur’an, 5:76)
So do not call on any other god along with Allah or you will be among those who will be punished. (Qur’an, 26:213) Read the rest of this entry »
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February 6, 2009
Kashmiri Muslims offer prayers inside the Jamia Masjid, or Grand Mosque, on the first Friday of Ramadan in Srinagar, India, Friday, Sept. 5, 2008. (AP Photo/Dar Yasin)
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http://bariisiyobasto.wordpress.com/2008/09/24/images-of-ramadan-1429-2008/
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Narrated by Abu Hurairah (Radhiallaho anho):
Allah’s Messenger (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “The reward of the prayer offered by a person in congregation is twenty five times greater than that of the prayer offered in one’s house or in the market (alone). And this is because if he performs ablution and does
it perfectly and then proceeds to the mosque with the sole intention
of praying, then for every step he takes towards the mosque, he is
upgraded one degree in reward and his one sin is taken off (crossed
out) from his accounts (of deeds). When he offers his prayer, the
angels keep on asking Allah’s blessings and Allah’s forgiveness for
him as long as he is (staying) at his Musalla. They say, ‘O Allah!
Bestow Your blessings upon him, be Merciful and kind to him.’ And one is regarded in prayer as long as one is waiting for the prayer.”
Sahih Al-Bukhari Vol.1 : No. 620
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February 6, 2009
Slow down for three minutes to read this. It is so worth it. Touching words from the mouths of babes..
What does ‘Love’ mean?
A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, ‘What does ‘love’ mean?’ The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:
‘When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore.
So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.’ Rebecca- age 8
‘When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.
You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.’ Billy – age 4
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Will I go to hell for no hijab?
February 6, 2009Dear Sister, my daughter also went through similar feelings because she tried it before she was required to wear it, there fore I let her remove it with her understanding that when it was a required thing to do at puberty, I hoped she would accept to wear it for her own self and not for pleasing me. Hijab is for yourself, for your dignity and modesty and for the pleasure of Allah swt. NOW, will you go to hell for it? We are not in any position to say no— or yes!!! This is only the right of Allah swt and those who presume to know will place themselves equal to His majesty. Should you lie to your mom? NO…. you need to sit down with her and ask her for help, for strength,,, and look into the reasons why it bothers you to wear it. Is it because of social pressure to take it off and fit in with ‘your friends’??? Know truely dearest sister, that true friends will love you no matter what you wear or how you look, and that is one of the purposes of hijab. People need to see you for who YOU are not —-what you dress in.
Some women who do not wear hijab do so because they think that iman or faith is enough, but we need to follow and submitt to what Allah has requested of us. So yes hijab is a fard, or an obligation on us.. But it is also our crown that we should wear with pride and dignity. Putting the hijab was a hard thing for me to do when I was 20,,, and I thought seriously of all I would give up or change in my life.. but when I put it I knew it was a great choice. You have to choose it for yourself in order to please Allah, and when you choose to do so is in your hands, but don’t lie about it because you will also be lieing to yourself first of all. Even if your mom doesnt see you — surely Allah does. He knows what is in your heart more than anyone can and he understands well your struggles and feelings. so trust in Allah and in His mercy and if you decide that now is not your time then you must make intention that soon you will return to wearing it for His pleasure and your blessings. May Allah swt guide you to the right choice and help you to over come these difficult feelings. Lastly, let me just mention- as maybe I have in one of my articles here, that choosing the right kind of scarf is important!!! I have high school girls on our bus who wrap and wrap and wrap the material around their head and neck. I look at them and wonder uffff how annoying —how can she stand it like that—- it would suffocate me and make me feel irritable. My daughter wears the two piece which I also dont like because it feels tight, and short… Sooo I chose the square hijab that you fold in half as a triangle and then pin under the chin. I use a comfy head band to hold the hijab in place so it doesnt slip around and bother me all day. Play around with different kinds and see what makes you feel comfy and pretty and great knowing you are doing a good thing for yourself. I pray that Allah will make it easy for you and give you the strength you need, and you will find out for yourself why you will want wear it!!
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